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Shanel Love
mamaways
Shanel Love·Мама сына (7 лет)

🗣🗣🗣 Custody Advice please (battling a narcissist)

I have mediation coming up and I don't know what to expect. I've gotten advice from a women's shelter and unfortunately since I don't have any hardcore recent evidence of abuse or harassment I have nothing to back up my concerns for my child's safety.

My ex used to call from burner numbers and restricted but since he's been served he's gone MIA. We are in two different states and hasn't physically abused me since I was pregnant. He told me he didn't want to be involved after I chose to move away to secure a stable, safe environment for my son and I.

Recently he's changed his mind and decided he wants our son but only wants him if he comes to Baltimore with him (extremely toxic and violent environment.. trust me, I've survived living in that house and I would never voluntarily bring my son near there)

Any advice?? Message me please. My son will be two by the time we go to mediation.

29.09.2019

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mollygoss23

If he doesnt respect you and he hurt you like that than he doesnt deserve any time of the day

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mamaways
Shanel Love·Мама сына (7 лет)

I'm just scared I'll have to send my son to Baltimore with him and his family. He doesn't even know them. I dont want him to be traumatized. I was told by someone close to his family that there's a long history of abuse and lies and I really dont want the courts to rule in his favor. I believe he wants shared custody.

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mollygoss23

@mamaways cut off all ties. Honestly you dont want that man to be around to teach your son a thing.. If he didnt respect you and he beat on you when you were pregnant with his child he shouldnt be around now.

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mamaways
Shanel Love·Мама сына (7 лет)

Yeah but I stayed and he's factory reset my phones plenty of times before he'd let me leave. I came back multiple times.

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kush_queen420
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·Мама троих детей

I’ve been threw this I ended up getting a restraining order changing phone numbers and moving out of town there’s nothing he can do if u give him 0 info save all texts block him on social media and anyone he’s knows

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mamaways
Shanel Love·Мама сына (7 лет)

@cheetahgurl420 yes my son has his last name and he signed the BC. My ex was GREAT for a few weeks when I had my child and after. Didnt last long but I will never take that from him. He's threatened to come and take him for months so I filed.

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amberlelliott28

@mamaways, did he abuse you before you even got pregnant?

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kush_queen420
Your Worst Nightmare 😘·Мама троих детей

@mamaways, ya well until he gets a attorney then there’s not much to say to him 🤷🏼‍♀️ actions speak louder then words

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amberlelliott28

You have absolutely no proof that he abused you???

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amberlelliott28

@mamaways, wow 😳 you notice you said “He let you go visit your mom” that’s crazy do you have any friends??? Because if I was your friend I would of been done knocked his ass out. Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ well I’m happy you “escaped “ but I would of whooped his ass

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mamaways
Shanel Love·Мама сына (7 лет)

@amberlelliott28 I had friends but we lost touch. One of my good friends tried to get her brothers to beat his ass and I wasn't allowed to talk to her anymore. We are in touch now but it's long distance. My other really good friend passed away while I was pregnant. He was physically smaller than me but definitely stronger. I didnt want to fight. Something his aunt pointed out to me was that it is still considered abuse even if he doesn't punch me. He would grab, slam, pin me down, throw me, and hold me captive in whatever room he wanted me in. He truly doesn't believe he's abusive. I used to feel sorry for him but he's never tried to research or seek help to see if he is. He just automatically rules it out because I'm not rich, successful or a male. My opinion is trash to him.

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amberlelliott28

@mamaways, why did you get pregnant by him???

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