So I need advice help on who's at the hospital and when..... When my son was born, my sister was there with me every step of the way at the hospital, and she is wanting to be again with my daughter (which I have no issues with) but my son's father didn't really get to be there too much because his 3 other kids plus from issues with my family at the time. Well with our daughter he is wanting to be there from the moment I go in for my csection and wanting to stay over night this time (already has a baby sitter in place). Well my sister is wanting to stay overnight as well, like she did with my son. But she doesn't want my kid's dad there overnight because she says that mine and her bonding time with the baby and stuff like that. But to me, it should rather be him there to bond with the baby immediately after. And she got mad when I told her all this. Can anyone help me with ideas on how to talk to her about this??? I have just over a week left and it's making me worry that it's going to cause issues, which I don't want.......☹️
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I agree with the first comment but I also have kind of a personal experience in the matter. My best friend and husband where in the room when I gave birth to my first, (him and i weren't married at the time and we were not on good terms) she didn't push to stay the night but ended up falling asleep there and I wouldn't let him stay the night. A little over 2 years later we are married and things are good but I still regret not letting him stay (he wanted to) and have that bonding time. But ultimately it is your choice and if you choose to let him stay your sister is just going to have to live with the fact that that is what you want.
Ultimately I think it's your choice, and whatever you believe will be best. I'd tell her that, if she gets upset about it well...🤷🏻♀️
You need support, definitely not being made to feel guilty about whatever you choose.
Does your hospital only let one person stay? If so I think it should be the babies father. I mean it is his baby after all. He has the right. But if your sister is your main support then I would have her there as much as you possibly can. Now if your hospital allows two people to stay I would let both stay. And if they don’t like it well they will have to suck it up.