I’m so tired of my husband and his anger issues I’m almost to the point of divorce 😞 he doesn’t hit me but he is verbally abusive then acts like nothing a couple hours later. I jus don’t know what to do anymore and plz not judgy comments I jus needed to vent 😭😭😭
Have he ever gotten physical? Or have u ever thought he may? U should probably come up with a plan to leave. I know it’s easier said then done but bringing up kids in that environment is so unhealthy. Your children will model this behavior if they haven’t already. How do your kids treat/talk to u? The same way? If they see their father talking to their mother that way they will likely continue the cycle of abuse. I’m really sorry
No he has never hit me and he don’t cuss at me in front of my older boys because they will say something to him. I don’t feel like he would ever hit me but he’s very hurtful and he knows I’m really insecure so he calls me fat or ugly when we argue and I know I shouldn’t listen but easier said then done. I need to start saving because I know I need to leave he will not stop and I can’t live like this forever. I couldn’t imagine my kids ever treating someone like this it’s the worst feeling.😭
oh yes that’s really terrible. I’m so sorry he’s being like this. Is this new or has he kind of always been like this? I’m sure your kids feel some sort of tension even if he doesn’t curse in front of them I’m sure they hear and see how he treats u. I’m happy u at least know he’s not going to change and u know u need to start getting your business in order to prepare to leave him. We are here for u for support! I know it’s not going to be easy but u and the kids will be so much happier without his belittling
Emotional and verbal can be just as bad as physical abuse
Definitely talk to him about it some really don’t understands they do it but follow your gut and do what’s best for you and your kids I’m always here to listen and not judge!!❤️
@preciouslove, mostly definitely it will help!!
Your not alone! I’ve been there a lot of us have and we might be strangers on a app we’re still here for you!❤️
@mombie., thank u mama I’m trying to get strong im gona get there because I could never let my kids think this is the way relationships are:(
Have you tried talking to him when he’s calm? You need to set those boundaries and let him know you won’t stand for that behavior
I have talked to him so many times he apologizes and then when he’s mad it goes out the door everything we talked about. He gets so angry and says everything he can to hurt me. I know he don’t mean it but it’s hurtful even tho I act like it’s not because I don’t want to give that to him. Then hours later he’s like nothing being nice.
I went through a depression about a month ago I had so much going on and I lost like 10 pounds I weigh 128 and my husband says I’m fat and I know I’m not I’m jus not in shape but I don’t have time to work out. This is me a week ago and I gained a pound since then. He says no one will want me with four kids. I do argue back with him but even when I’m so mad I don’t say hurtful things.
he has always been this way somewhat he has always had anger issues but not this bad it has gotten this way after 5 years. My kids know we argue a lot 😞 and it’s over the dumbest, smallest things most times and he jus keeps going and going. I used to agree with him on whatever it was to avoid the fight but didn’t help he still kept on so now I actually argue back and that’s when he starts the name calling. Your fat, ugly, he calls me a bitch, no one would ever want me, I’m not a good mom, I’m jus a whore when I don’t even do anything. I’m not going to act innocent cause I do argue back but I never say hurtful things it don’t even come to my mind. I call him a psycho and that makes him really mad but he is one. He doesn’t care to try to even be better he says he will when he’s calm and the minute something makes him mad it’s all out the window. I’m giving up because I jus can’t imagine this being my life forever 😭 I start to even question if i start it what do I do to make arguments so I try to do what bothers him but he always finds something wrong.
Firstly hun you are not fat at all and people, especially partners say things that they know will hurt you just to “win” an argument. We all know it’s wrong but it happens a lot.
Have you noticed anything that triggers him to have these angry outbursts ?
So sorry to hear your being made to feel like shit it’s really not nice and always here if you need a chat xx
Thank u love I know ur right but anything triggers him he gets mad really easy over dumb things and it’s not just towards em it can be anyone but since I’m the closest to him i have to hear it the worst. He can get mad because he can’t find something instead looking he flips out like wtf where is it? Why the fuck isn’t it here? Jus anything that makes him mad that isn’t even my fault.
has he got any addictions on any medication or anything like that? Has something happened where he’s under a lot of stress at the moment? Does he suffer with any mental health illnesses ?
Seems to me that he’s under a lot of stress or possibly depression causing him to have these angry episodes or could even be he has high blood pressure problem and that’s causing him to become irritable and angry. Either way he needs to be seen or speak to someone about the what’s going on because it’s not fair for him to be causing you upset especially if things can be sorted out.
Try talk to him say you are worried about him because of his behaviour changes and want to know if there’s anything making him feel the way he does xx
Verbal and emotional abuse can be worse those are hidden scars that can last a lifetime I know I’ve been there both types even psychical honestly not my place to tell you to leave but I would put yourself first maybe start off with some couples therapy and tell him you won’t settle for anything less then you deserve
Yes mama I feel that too he has made me into this insecure weak person that I never was and the sad part is I barely realized it a couple months ago:( Thank u I will see if he will go he makes it seem like it’s not a big deal to talk to me that way.
people who treat others that way are weak they feel more powerful when they do this don’t feed his power
@boymom123, i don’t I act like it don’t hurt me and I don’t care but somehow he knows how to get to me. I’m jus getting my mind ready to leave him after I have enough saved I hope I can do it. I don’t know why it’s hard I’m not happy. When we separate I know I’m going to feel sad and hurt and want him home but that’s why I started a diary to remind my self of the constant disrespect and maybe that will make me strong.
So sorry your goin through this. One thing for sure two things for certain. When YOU can’t take it no more YOU won’t. Good luck and stand your ground mama
I feel like couples when together we don’t see that side as easy. It’s not like he’s yelling at me to keep the noise down lol. Triggers are in everyone anger is an issue and things trigger anger finding what works for couples.
Yea my husband is triggered for small things I try to be understanding but it’s hard with the name calling
ugh the name calling I swear it's definitely how he was raised no doubt. My husband has similar acts. I just quietly say they are getting old know will understand what that means please stop. He's shameful.
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Emotional and verbal can be just as bad as physical abuse
Definitely talk to him about it some really don’t understands they do it but follow your gut and do what’s best for you and your kids I’m always here to listen and not judge!!❤️
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Thank u so much for that😭 I feel so alone because I could never tell my friends and family how bad he is they would hate him for sure. I recently started a diary so when I do leave and I’m feeling weak I can read back. I hope it’ll work.
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mostly definitely it will help!!
Your not alone! I’ve been there a lot of us have and we might be strangers on a app we’re still here for you!❤️
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@mombie., thank u mama I’m trying to get strong im gona get there because I could never let my kids think this is the way relationships are:(
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you will get there just take it one day at a time!