We have no one either. My parents pretty much disowned me when i was a teenager for being gay. My wife's mom just doesn't have it together and her dad is no longer with us. So we just take turns and fill in where needed. We never go anywhere without the youngest ones. Even date night!

I stayed home for a few years while he worked, Now we work opposite shifts. I take them to school and work late, he goes to work early and gets off early to pick them up from childcare.

I learned to deal with situations. I personally do not like to hand off my child just to go out on the town, because GUILT. so it kind of was okay.