Hi everyone, I’m not fake I swear. I made this account just to vent. I’m a normal user on here. If…
Hi everyone, I’m not fake I swear. I made this account just to vent. I’m a normal user on here. If you know who I am please don’t say anything I’m embarrassed enough.
I just had to call the cops on my sons dad. We’ve been together almost four years. Yesterday we were talking about getting married, we haven’t got married yet because of money problems and he wanted a real wedding.
Our fight started over a dust pan. He is so petty. He is the type to think he’s always right. If we don’t do stuff his way it’s a petty fight. Same with his brothers and his sisters and their SO’s bc that’s how their dad is.
My son spent the night with his sister because I’ve been really sick, I’m sick today too plus the stress and tiredness from being pregnant.
I wouldn’t have called the cops if he hadn’t told me I was never gonna see my son again. He told me to leave around four but I said I wasn’t without my son because his family has always been sneaky and threatening. Every other time we argued he’s said the same thing. This time I was actually leaving though. He told me to abort my baby, and that I’d never see my son again. I told him I was calling the law regardless if he left the house or not (bc I said I wasn’t til I got my son) I wasn’t sure of the laws pertaining our rights with my son. I remember my sister saying it doesn’t matter if he signs the certificate but I wanted to make sure we did it the legal way. I didn’t call the law to be petty like some mothers. I called them because I wanted to know for sure. My ex talked about ‘grandparents law’ or whatever. I said wtf you’re stupid so I called them and I told them it wasn’t a emergency I wanted to know my rights and the fathers rights as well. His family thinks as long as he signed the birth certificate he could take him away anytime he pleases. They told me different though, they said as long as he hasn’t went through a lawyer he couldn’t keep him from me. His family got mad cause I proved him wrong, all of them.
My ex is a great father to my son and I’m sorry if this is all over the place. That sounds awful saying seeing as he just told me to abort our baby. I would have never done nothing like this. I know how bitter “baby mommas” can be but im a mother to my son. If he hadn’t tried to keep my son away everything would’ve been fine between us after breaking up. Now I don’t know what to do. He loves our son I know he does. I just don’t know where to go from here.
He thinks that I called the law just to trash talk him but I didn’t at all, I just asked what both our rights are, I’m not that type of person. I would never keep my son away from him like that just to be petty. But now I’m sure that’s how his family will make it seem. Thanks for reading. He talked all his crap, even threatened me several times as he has before if I left. Saying he would murder, me and my son and kill hisself if I left. I recorded it this time although I don’t know the laws of recording other people so idk if I’ll be able to use it.
PotTmouthed&StirredUp👊·
I'm so sorry u went through this are y'all together if so I advice to get away from him.u state he I's a great father but then says he said abort your baby & that he will murder u y'all son and his self! I see this way to much in the news and I pray for u hun. I'm speaking on personal experience. When he said he will kill u all if u left he is SERIOUS & u need to leave!
Cams ·
Well firstly, I would go to the police station and file a restraining order. I would play them the recording of him threatening bodily harm. If they don’t grant the order, at least you now have documentation of the event. That will help you when the custody proceedings take place.
anon123··
I’m not even sure where to begin. Do I call a custody lawyer (I don’t even know what it’s called) first? Neither one of us has money to get a good lawyer but his boss does and will help him if he needs the help.
Shay·
I suggest doing ALL of the following.
Research recording laws in your state.
Go to the police station and file for an emergency restraining order for EVERYONE. You and your kids.
Start the process to put custody and visitation in place. I suggest going after full custody and supervised visitation, hell no visitation at all.
Leave and don't go back. He can be a good father but it's obvious he's a danger to you and willing to hurt his kids even kill them in the process. He's a danger.
anon123·
Hi everyone, I left him. Let me know if the post is confusing he told me that he would kill everyone on the “hill” including me which the hill is a place where all my step family lives it’s land my stepmoms grandmother bought and put trailers on for family... beyond saying that he has never hurt me or put his hands on me. He said that mainly bc his family feels that if you have a child with someone y’all have to get married and be together even if y’all cheat lie and hurt each other. So fucked up. Not trying to make excuses for him just trying to let y’all know all the facts. I know by the end of tonight he will be calling me telling me how much he loves me. Before I left out of spite he told me to find my own way to get diapers. I have no job or anything so I guess that’s my next action. This step family has no room for me there are literally five bedrooms and I swear 12 ppl live here. The next closest family is North Carolina or Texas. My car is broken down right now and I doubt I can take my son out of state? I’m just so worried.
Shay··
Look up your state laws regarding that. Has any custody been established? If no then you're free to leave.
anon123··
no custody has been established yet.
Jenny·
Girl sorry all this is going on but I’d start with custody stuff make sure u get that in order and Idk where ur from but I recorded my SO’s sister coming home trashed and threatening me n punching me till we got into a real fight. And she tired saying I did everything n put her through a glass table n their mom. If I didn’t have that proof that i recorded the cops let me use they would have screwed me. She attacked me right after I put my son down. So they should let u use it and they pushed for restraining orders. Just protect urself and ur babies, he can’t fight the law if u have custody things in place and if he does he’ll be screwing himself. Good luck