So. MIL asked me if she could have my son Sunday I said that’s fine cause she usually gets him and they do things around here which is fine. She told my S/O that she plans to take him to this city that’s a hour and a half away from me while knowing he always forgets to tell me things and she mentioned nothing to me about it. My SO doesn’t think it should matter they’re going that far away but I have anxiety so I freak out over everything. I could go but I don’t actually want to really. How do you guys feel about the situation?
Комментарии
Sorry for the late reply! Lol she didn’t end up taking him I think she ended up having to work or something came up to where she couldn’t get him for the day
@brittanyyyy, that worked out! I don’t know why it feels like a competition between mom and MIL... mom will always WIN.
She needs to tell U BOTH the same thing and not let out any information when talking to u, it is a big deal ur his mother if u don’t want to I would speak up and say that, it’s up to u, ur the One who takes care of him 24/7! And that’s A little far!
If she’s taken him places before and he’s been okay I dont think I’d mind it at his age . If he was under a year I think I def would but her not mentioning it is definitely not okay. I would let him go but I would have a conversation saying that next time you need to know if she plans on bringing him places like that. And say you want phone calls or pictures every how ever often while they’re there . Grandparents love our babies too!
I get that! It’s just how she went about it you know 😕
@brittanyyyy, yeah I would definitely have a conversation about that. Cause if she just took him and then I found out they were that far later I’d be mad
So this might sound petty but just hear me out
I would say no just because she didn’t have the decency to tell me herself. It’s as if she didn’t want you to find out? Was she planning on telling you? In my opinion and with all respect to her I think that’s disrespectful to you you’re the mom
But also yeah I would be all sorts of paranoid to have my son so far away
That’s how I feel about it. I feel she would have told me as she was walking out the door with him. As soon as my SO told me about it I’m like I don’t like that she never told me anything at all.
She does things like that cause she knows I’m paranoid about everything. I wouldn’t let him stay with her for about a year and she’d always get mad about it. She’d ask his dad and he’d say yes to everything cause he isn’t full of anxiety like me so she probably knew telling him I’d probably never hear about it but if something were to happen she’d be able to say she told him
@brittanyyyy, yeah I have a similar situation at home as well. But no be more firm and tell her no because if you let it slide once she’ll do it again. I’m sorry if I’m intruding that’s my opinion but yeah he’s your child.
I wanted to make sure I wasn’t the only one uncomfortable with the thought of your child being that far away from you
I know they wouldn’t let anything happen to him but still things happen. She’s not as strict with things with him because well she’s a grandma lol. Like she’d let him walk around the places if he wanted to as for me I’d keep him in the stroller and not let go of it for my life. 🤷🏽♀️
3 hours in the car sounds like time wasted that they could be doing something fun. I wouldn't want anyone taking my kids that far without me. And I wouldn't want them stuck in the car for that long
It’s a hour and a half, but I know what you meant lol. People are too crazy these days for me to feel comfortable with him going places where I don’t even take him. 😖
@brittanyyyy an hour and a half there and an hour and a half back...3 hours?
he will be with people that love him and won't intentionally put him in harms way. They should have mentioned it to you for sure though 😣 I need to know exactly where my daughter will be!
I would ask her to tell YOU if she has a desire to take him somewhere out of town. You should know where you child is in the event of an emergency. Nothing wrong w that at all.
I was just looking up posts with MIL in them and stumbled upon this. What happened? Did she take him? I won’t even let my 3 year old stay at grandmas, or even let her get in grandmas car, so I would say your MIL is very lucky you even let her take your son to her house.