Feels like baby is pushing down and it hurts. Im so scared of labor, that this time around its going…

Feels like baby is pushing down and it hurts. Im so scared of labor, that this time around its going to really hurt. Both times with my son and daughter it didnt hurt at all. With my son my back hurt really bad. And with my daughter it didnt hurt at all till the last few minutea when i needed to push because i could feel the baby pushing. But as far as contractions, i couldn't feel them really