That’s what I think. Not that you don’t have some feeling of what it’s like to desire a child and be crushed when it doesn’t happen in a month, 6 months, or even a year. I don’t think people who have to try for a little while don’t have some awareness as to how it feels to not get a child. And I am not saying that they shouldn’t or do not have the right to speak about it or be mad or cry or whatever they need to do to express themselves. All I am trying to express is that someone who tries for what to me is such a short time isn’t going to know how I or anyone who has tried for a significant length of time feels. Just as I would never compare myself to someone who tried for 15+ years and decided to choose another path or finally got a +. That hasn’t been my journey yet.

@jcschafer16, exactly! I've spoken to my friend who's been trying for three years I always say that I scratched the surface of what she feels. I know the pain and disappointment of not getting the positive test, but I also know it gets worse with each passing month - therefore I can only imagine how hard it is for her at this point. I have the empathy for her, but not the same experience to relate.

I understand it took me and bf 5 1/2 years 2 get pregnant and then we MC a 8 weeks 5 days.. Breaks my heart. My daughter is 8.. I didnt want it 2 b like my sister and i. I am 9 years older than her but i also know im nothing like my parents so i know in my heart my daughter and her future sibling will never b like my sister and i no matter how many yrs difference

@girlmom23 yeah that's how my family is to there is 14 year between me and the next youngest sibling and 30 somthing between me and my oldest sister we never had a great relationship more like mother daugher then sisters. I told my husband I wanted my kids close in age and now I'm afraid it won't happend.

How is it rude? I would never say it to anyone. It’s just an internal thought/feeling I have. That I already feel bad for having. I am not trying to diminish her struggle or journey, but she can not possibly know how I feel. So what part of it is rude? By the way you don’t know me and you can’t hear me saying this so I just want to clarify that I am truly asking why it’s rude. I’m not mad or upset for you telling me that it is.

@jcschafer16, I personally feel like TTC and struggling should connect women. It’s not a race, my struggle is no harder than the next. We all deserve to be mothers no matter the path. I hope your month comes soon!

@jcschafer16 not eligible why

@viktoria45, my husband has a criminal record. He was young and dumb and got in trouble when he was 18.

@jcschafer16 so sorry

Yes. I have done clomid with no success. A SA which came back normal. I know I have PCOS. I am doing everything I can to help with that. I see an RE and have our first IUI scheduled with the next cycle I have where huge cysts are not present.

@jcschafer16 alot of women struggle to conceive with pcos. Good luck with your iui cycle hun !! Sorry you're dealing with all of these emotions, I've been there. Everyone's comments on it bothered me too, my sister had 4 babies back to back before I got pregnant again... I thought it would never happen for me again, but eventually it did.. and then I ended up losing that one, at 11 weeks , after all of that time and I just knew it wouldn't happen again. I know it is hard, but dont give up hope !!

I do know that it depends on age, or at least at my ongyn it does. 1 year for couples under 35, 6 months after that.

@jcschafer16, oh okay. That's probably it.. The age, where 8 months is considered. But still it's not that far off from 6 🤷🏽‍♀️. (Not belittling or anything) but it took me a year and a month to conceive. And I'm healthy and 26 lol