You need to check your mom

I had to straight up tell my mom to stop making white people jokes, in private of course, I told her it offends my son and my husband and he doesn’t like that shit at all and neither do I.

Yeah I agree

@nervous_mama No you won't be deported also but I dont think you'd want to stay here without your partner and your sons father. Just do civil your parents dont need to be there if they are what's making things difficult. My husband and I got married civil first then church when we had money. It wasn't too expensive for us to get married through civil.

Yeah to be honest I've been going through that too and my husband is Guatemalan as well as I am half Mexican myself and my moms mom is exactly like that so I had to block her out of my life I even at some blocked my mom out of my life as well hut she's gotten better after really getting to know my husband. Ita not an easy situation especially with what's going on in the world these days but the best you can do is just block her out until she understands.

I am closing off the chapter between my mom and I for many reasons including this one. My mom has referred to my son as a “taco”, suggested I date white guys because Mexicans are controlling, told me Mexicans beat their women, etc. she also makes comments about black people: in reference to bringing my husband to meet her “thank god you didn’t bring a black guy home” and has dropped the “n***er” word. I’m super passionate on not determining characteristics of an individual based on their race, for ANY race. But the fact that she makes those remarks and tokenizes my son is not okay. I don’t want my son growing up feeling in any way ashamed of his ancestry or his family. So I pick the family I make over the family that acts so hateful.

I wouldn’t even tolerate that from my mom. If she feels some type of way about your baby being mixed then she doesn’t need to see the baby or you. Some people don’t learn until they are being loved from a distance

@dscroggins08 My fiance has already gotten in a verbal fight with her three times in the 6 months we've lived with them. My mom gives me shit because I take his side. Which makes him considered controlling in her eyes. We moved in so I could have help with my son and my pregnancy. But at this point we all would have been better off getting our own place. I'm tired, hormonal and just done with my family. I miss my in-laws. At least my mother in law treated me like a daughter and my sister in law treated me like a sister. My own brother treats me like shit and tells me how to raise my son...he doesn't even have children let alone like them.

Sound like my uncle. He told me not another Mexican. 🤦🏼‍♀️ We have 3 half white and half Mexican in my family, my cousin, my nephew, and now my son. He also tell jokes as well.

Yikes. Sorry to hear that you’re in the middle. If she can’t be nice she can’t be around your son 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mixes babies are adorable , that's pretty fucked up she even let's that come out her mouth I wouldn't want to be in the same room with her either if I was your husband , definitely agree with @meaux check your mama or your husband will probably break and end up having to check her I'd do it for your son and your man they don't deserve that

You need to check your mom