Okay so bare with me this post might be a bit long but if I don’t get it out I’m going to burst..
My sister found out she is pregnant today and I have a whole host of emotions going on.
For starters I’m not happy or excited or any positive emotion you would attach to this news.
She is so not ready for this. She is one of the most selfish, non maternal person I know. She doesn’t even like to help me with Theon besides hold him for a couple of minutes..
Her bf is the worst. He is neglectful with her, ghosts her all the time if he doesn’t want to see her. Doesn’t like her to come buy his house or spend time with his two children which he has said that if he wanted her to spend time with his kids she would be. His family don’t approve of the the relationship. He is Muslim and on top of that he practically uses her for a plaything as the only ‘time’ they spend together is at work where they work together, at my house or if shes lucky he’ll take her out for something to eat.
This is the worst thing possible for her and I know it in my gut and I’m scared he’s going to talk her into keeping it and then disappointment her and she will literally be left holding the baby. I know this is a possibility because every time he’s done something horrid he’s convinced her to get back with him.
And the selfish part of me is annoyed she is going to take the shine from Theon and I. He’s not even a year old and I want everything to still be about him. Also scared I’ll be left to look after this child a lot because I have Theon and looking after children is in my nature.
I’m just feeling so conflicted because I know I can’t be happy if she decides to keep it.
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I completely think if she keeps it it will be because he’s going to sell her a dream. She hasn’t said either way what she wants to do. I’m glad you get what I mean by the attention thing
I think unfortunately there isn’t a whole lot you can do except supper her with whatever she chooses.
I think it is selfish that you feel she would take attention from you, maybe think Theon would have a cousin close in age and they would be best friends growing up
It’s not really attention from me as it would Theon. You know like if you have kids close together you worry about not being able to give yourself to two kids. and I think he deserves it all. I do think about the cousin thing but it’s over shadowed by her incapability to have this child. I know if she chooses to have this baby there is nothing I can do about it. Before this I would have said that I would always tell someone to keep it but I guess having my own child I know the reality of it
I agree with @Casey19, you'll need to just be there for her and support any decision she makes either way. The more you push someone to do something then they tend to go the opposite of that in the need of wanting to prove people wrong. He may surprise you when the babys here? The main question is does she really "want" a baby or do you think shed keep it thinking hed treat her better? Personally I dont believe in abortion and when some women have a child they just fall into motherhood naturally. As for taking attention away from you and your little one - you and Theon are undoubtedly loved for who you both are and that shouldn't change, especially from family members etc. When a newborn is born it's only natural they get that attention just like your Theon did and they deserve it bless them 😊. I wouldnt stress about it too much. My partner had 2 brothers and both had a baby a year before my little girl was born and now his brothers having another. Kind of annoys me a bit as Chelsea's just turned one and I first thought "oh so Chelsea wont be seen as much now etc" but now I just look at it in the positive way of another cousin for Chelsea to grow up with. Plus all babys are different and all have their own characters, all unique👍 xx