Those of you that have 2+ kids: was it scary to add another child? My little is 1.5, very strong willed (despite being normally wellbehaved) and had been a real handful lately. ...

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Those of you that have 2+ kids: was it scary to add another child? My little is 1.5, very strong willed (despite being normally wellbehaved) and had been a real handful lately. I am just FREAKING OUT about the idea of having to manage 2 of them. My husband is out of town a lot for work, so I'm just overwhelmed at the idea of being out numbered. Its keeping me from feeling joy about this new life. Any articles, books, any suggestions are welcome.

Amber · Answer

My kids are just under 4 years apart.. The first few days/wk was the toughest but after that it got easier. Just takes a little time to adjust, but honestly after you get a routine down it’s easier. Obviously everyday isn’t smooth sailing BUT hang in there mama, you got this 💪💕
It’s worth every single moment!!

Amy O. · Answer

It’s normal to have these feelings. My toddler has autism and on top of those feelings I also felt guilt, if it would be too much change, if I wouldn’t be able to be what she needs with another. BUT let me tell you this. Yes it is hard, sometimes not as much and sometimes it may feel as if you might just cry, but it is all worth it and YOU can handle it. You will grow and things that might seem really hard at first will get easier, not everything, but a lot. I know a sibling is one of the best gifts we can give our little ones. Oh and remember, the first 6 months or so, they aren’t Mobile, so you have time before you’re chasing them both down. For me the hardest part was bedtime, which I’m home alone for, but now  we’ve got it down!! :D. Good luck, you’ve got this mama!!!! Ps—— there is no harm in giving your toddler your phone if you need a bit of time with your newborn or putting a show on for her- don’t feel guilty doing this!!!

Samantha · Answer

I just feel so overwhelmed someti.es with just one! I'm afraid I'm going to turn into this screeching harpy of a mom. All o can remember is how isolated and alone I felt after Lily. I'm having such a hard time remembering and envisioning the good parts. I feel so guilty that I havent felt that abundance of love and happiness and connection with this new baby like I did when carrying my daughter.

Amy O. · Answer

@aurorabourealis, it was a lot easier for me emotionally after this baby than my first. Also physically my body healed a lot quicker. I didn’t feel very connected during the pregnancy either, but once I held him in my arms it was instant. If you notice any depression after birth. Talk to your doctor, you might need a bit of help, but that’s okay!

Retta Rodriguez · Answer

2 is perfect I think once the little one starts moving around and things it gives the older baby some to bond and play with.  It's very manageable in my prospective.  Now 0ver two🤕 🤣🤣🤣😢🙏 pray for me lol.

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