*ADVIVE*
*does this make me a bad mum*
My daughter is 14 months old. She has a healthy diet and eats pretty much anything. Just lately, my mum and mainly my partners family have really been irritating me. Me and my partner don’t give my daughter juice, chocolate or tea. She loves water and drinks so much in a day. We don’t give her chocolate as she doesn’t need it( she has had white chocolate on few occasions but not all the time). I also do not want her drinking tea. My mother in law keeps asking can we give her tea and our answer is always no and then she says what about decaf. Then she makes comments like” stick to her milk and water then, how boring. My partners auntie and uncle take the piss and say” aw, are you drinking your council pop” aw won’t mummy let you have chocolate. Then they sit there and offer my daughter chocolate sweets, childcare cake and I look the bad mother saying no, she can have strawberries instead and she clears the plate in seconds As she loves them. I just feel like turning round and saying “ she’s our baby now back off” need some advice as of course Easter is coming up and they have only all gone and brought her an Easter egg when we told them not to buy her any as mummy and daddy will end up getting fat 🙈xx
God that'd piss me off! What's this thing with giving kids tea?! It's gross anyway 😂😂
I feel bad for you because we went through this exact situation when Morgan was a baby. It's not that I'm against it completely but figured he didn't need it so young. The longer you leave it the better lol. Both Grandparents would sneak him chocolate etc when they thought I didn't see. They'd roll their eyes like I was being too overprotective. 'What's wrong with a bit of tea?' They'd ask. Why does he need tea I'd ask lol What's the big fascination with giving babies tea. I didn't get it. For Easter just say your not doing chocolate eggs etc because she's too young, doesn't understand so there's no point. If they get some then just eat it yourself or give it to someone else lol. Not much you can do really. That's grandparents for you. No reason to fall out over it. If they roll their eyes and make funny comments let them crack on!
Ah Thankyou- don’t
Want to fall out with them but think to myself” what have I got to lose” I’m not being horrible, I’m just telling them no. They’ll come round eventually because they will want to see my daughter xx
I totally agree with u. Our LG only drinks milk or water. I would never even think about giving her tea. We did try her on that baby juice stuff once but she refused it and I’m not going to push her to drink it. I’m happy for her just to drink water if that’s what she wants. She does have chocolate but not very often. It’s totally upto u. We agreed not to give her chocolate last Easter and to b honest I prob won’t buy her 1 this Easter as my mil has already said she’s got her a chocolate bunny so that will b enough. They really sound like they don’t respect u and maybe it’s time to get a bit tougher and tell them straight that she’s ur daughter and what u say is final. I hope u work something out xx
Thankyou- they are very interfering. They made my pregnancy hell and the worst bit is, they live around the corner 🙈😭xx
This shit angers me! Tell them to fuck off! I was the exact same, I’m much more relaxed now that she’s a bit older but even this Easter, we’ll let her have a kinder egg or 2! If they want to get something then maybe an Easter themed toy or book! My daughter only drinks water and juice very occasionally! If they fill up on chocolate and crap then they won’t eat the nutritious stuff- it’s common sense!! You’re not a bad mum, you’re a good one! Xx
Thanks everyone- she can have some chocolate for Easter but they’ve just gone over the top and brought so much. Might just make some Rice Krispie cakes and offer it to them when they come round to make a point that they were told to buy an outfit rather than so many Easter eggs xx
Doesn’t make you a bad mum at all! My lil boy mainly drinks water. I give him the option of what he’d like to drink and 99% of the time he’ll ask for water. I love the fact he prefers water over juice etc it’s so much more better for him.
As for chocolate I only started to let lil man have lil bits of chocolate after he turned one and that was only white chocolate now and again. To be honest our family didn’t see anything wrong in him not having chocolate at that age, their still only little. Now he’s older he can have some chocolate.
If that was me and my family brought lil man eggs which he wouldn’t be eating I’d just give them away to a church or food bank (local hairdresser every Easter has a collection in the salon for people to donate Easter eggs) for other lil kids to have, their not to know they’ve been donated and it’s not like you haven’t told them she’s not having chocolate anyways.
You get to get rid of the chocolate and do a good thing at the same time xx
No it doesn’t make you a bad Mam at all. They should respect your rules. Although small amounts of treats are healthy otherwise when they’re older they can binge on stuff they wasn’t allowed to have as a kid. But it’s totally up to you what she has x
It doesn't make you a bad mum.
I don't let Theo have chocolate or sweets all the time, he'll have dark chocolate on occasion and at a birthday party he'll have jelly and maybe some cake. I'd also never let him have tea, he has a peppermint or camomile tea occasionally because he likes them and they are good for you. Honestly up until he was about 16 months I was so sticky with his diet because my partners dad kept giving Theo chocolate on Christmas eve without me or my partner knowing and Theo woke up Christmas morning, he was so sick and it completely ruined Christmas day with my family for him and me because he was crying and upset so I didn't get to see him play with all the kids or open any of his gifts, annoyed me a lot!
I'd just stick to your guns, maybe have a word with your partner see if he'd be willing to sit down with his parents and have a word? X
Doesn’t make you a bad mum. My 2year old only drinks water he will drink juice if he has to but screws his face up and doesn’t enjoy chocolate now as I never gave him it. He likes a plain wafer as a treat loves pretty much most foods. Tell them to p*ss off your baby your rules.
For sure it doesn’t make you a bad mum..she’s your daughter and whatever you want for her should go. They should listen to what you want and not what they want. It’s totally up to you what you want her to eat! I wouldn’t worry about it has your partner said anything to his side of the family about it? Maybe they’ll listen? If he sat them down etc? Xx
Nope- he just says it won’t change anything. It’s my mother in laws 60th next month so they are bound to say something then so I might just tell them to back off but in a nice way x
I don’t think it makes you a bad mom, she’s your daughter so whatever you decide goes x
I’ve never given my boy tea. I just don’t see the need for it. He has squash water or milk shake (because that’s the only form of milk I can get in him) I’ve let him try it and he just pulls a face and says it’s yucky. He doesn’t ask for it either. Just stick to your guns they will soon get the hint