Someone help me. I’m struggling. I don’t know what to do. I’ve been back and forth with it. It’s a long one and I would really like someone to message me about it.
I don’t know whether or not to allow my daughters father to be a part of her life, not that he really cares. There’s a backstory so don’t jump to conclusions and assume I’m a “bitter baby mama”. It’s not just because I don’t want him to. The last thing I want is for my child to not have a father around.
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Sorry got carried away. But it still "haunts" me to this day I'm just glad my son doesn't remember hardly anything from then. Do what you feel is necessary
@anicole3285, no worries. I understand, happens to me too. That’s awful. I’m glad you got away from it! ♥️
As long as he isn't on dumb shit(gangs, drugs, etc) give him the chance to be there. If he shows he doesn't want to be part of her life then it'll be on him.
Unfortunately drugs are a part of it. And there’s a history of physical abuse towards me. Several times while my oldest daughter was around. I just don’t wanna be the one who didn’t give him a chance and regret it. But then the things he has done and does are still in the back of my head.
You need to give him time to clean up his act. Supervised short visits (if the little one wants to see her dad) she will understand as she gets older that you were her protector.
If he has hit you, I am so glad you are out of that.
And stay straight, he will shape up or go down the deep end. You can’t fix that but you also can’t subject your child to that possibility either.
Give it time.
You won’t regret waiting but you might regret acting too early. ♥️I hope it all works out momma.
You and your babes deserve the absolute best.
Give him time to wise up but in the meantime your kids will have a great role model in their mother and even perhaps a new partner.
I know where you're coming from in a way. I made the choice 6 years ago with my now 10 year old son father not to keep him around. He comes and goes when he pleases. He'll go a year with out seeing my son then and expect me to be around for him to come to see for ONLY an hour till the next year. Not to mention he's verbally abusive and is stress on me constantly when he talked to me which was only every 4 months. Same with expecting me to answer the phone every single time he called me. It's like my entire life gets interrupted. He has also broken into my home (claiming he didn't because my back door was unlocked) my son doesn't even like him and called him by his first name. Drugs and alcohol aren't the only reasons to do what you're doing