Okay so tomorrow my baby is 8 weeks. My significant other tells me his family wants the baby to do over night stays, but they live an hour and a half away. How old were your little ones when they did over night stays?? I’m having separation anxiety so I was thinking after he is a year or older, but we can visit for him to get to know them. What are your thoughts?
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Also when my mother keeps him it's only for a night and she normally visits all night until about 6 or 7 at night then goes home and he's in bed and I pick him up before lunch time or around 1 so he's not really there or away from me that long and I blow up her phone a lot to make sure he's ok lol
I nursed my son all the way until he was 2 years and 2 months when I got pregnant with this baby. My son has only ever stayed at my mom's house AFTER he was fully off the breast and was able to be used to life after the breast. Lol my mother was also nervous about keeping him , she kept him for the first time alone about a 3 months ago and get him every other weekend sometimes as she realized it isn't that bad. And he's ONLY stayed the night with her. My other family want to keep him and I tell them no. . My hubbs parents or family doesn't ever keep him because he doesn't know them well enough as they live over an hour in a half away and to him they're strangers because we can't just pack up and go there all the time and they don't ever come around but once every few months. Your child being only 8 weeks old is way to young to go and if he can't respect your choice as a mother than he needs to grow up. Sounds like he just wants the break from the poor baby . Smh
She was two and it was only because I was having a thyroidectomy and was hospitalized. Then at 2.5 when I had my other baby. Sorry but my kid sleeps at home! I know I'm a helicoptor mom... I'm okay with it and so it my daughter!
Both of my kids stayed with grandparents at 3 months old. They survived and so did I. 😊 Both my husband and I agreed on it though.
I didn’t allow My oldest to stay anywhere until he was almost 2 lol my MIL use to say how I was horrible mom for not letting her keep her grandson over night and I’m like idc my kid my rules get over it 😂🤷🏻♀️
After i had my baby i let my mom take my daughter for a night around month's but she was only a few blocks away. Wait till after a year.
I'm SOOOOO glad after reading everyone's answers. My SO parents live almost 2 hours away. I breastfeed and supplement. And his parents are in their 60s. Everything mentioned has been an anxiety of mine- emergencies, disrespecting boundaries and feeding styles, old methods, etc., and I've been painted as a psychopath for not letting my 2 month old be too far from me but apparently I'm not alone
My girls havent stayed overnight anywhere since they came home. My sister and sister in law always want to take them home but I cant let them go. I just can't lol. With my nieces and nephews they always stayed overnight at my moms since about 6 months, but even over a year old now I have to know my girls are sleeping okay, I cant even have someone watch them when it would be nap time. Just me, not for everyone but its me.
Yes that’s what I told my SO. That for now we can visit, but my son and I stayed at my parents last night (they are 15 minutes down the road). My SO says it’s not fair that he stayed with my family, and I don’t want him to stay (WITHOUT US), at his families house which is an hour and a half away!
@jenx, Right!?? And they don’t respect boundaries! I am breastfeeding and supplementing, but anytime he fusses his maternal grandma is like ‘he’s hungry,’ um no... maybe he’s got a dirty diaper, or gas, or is sleepy...
@mama-ev yeah, I don't like those boundary pushers. Like you know they'll overfeed him and do it all their way when you aren't there. Use only formula.
@jenx, exactly, but my SO can’t even set up boundaries let alone acknowledge the flaws and understand why it would make me uncomfortable.
We don't do overnight stays away from us. We visit as a family and leave as a family.
My son has done overnights. But grandma and grandpa are also right next door.
Whenever you are comfortable, really. But as a breastfeeding mom its never been possible lol. After 1 is good, 2 even better
Right!? I said after he is a year or older and he got all mad!
I was just thinking about that I had relatives that wanted to take him for the night n I’m thinking he’ll no.I probably won’t be comfortable until a year or year and half
No way would i ever let my 2 month old stay anywhere but by me. I think thats too young. Maybe after a year. My kid is 5 and still hasnt left my sight lol
I would not have my 8 week old staying anywhere overnight especially that far. I agree that you can visit for now until the baby is older.
None of my kids stayed the night anywhere until they were at least over 2 years. I’m a weirdo about it though 🤷🏻♀️
My son is 3 and has never done overnight stays it is not necessary