Sometimes i wish i could just raise my son on my own. His dad likes to lay him down in his arms in the bed and fall asleep and ill sit there and watch him for a little bit then put him in his crib before i go to sleep. Why does he not get that the baby cant sleep in bed with us... He also thinks everytime the baby cries it means give him a bottle 🙈. Like i said sometimes i just wish i could do this on my own.. He has a 4 year old he should know these things better than me its my first kid
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Yes i do speak to him about it and as long as im up and can watch him i dont mind the baby sleeping close with him he just doesnt respect that i need a little rest too and dont want him to fall asleep with the baby if we are both sleeping he knows i want the baby in his crib but he doesnt listen which makes me frustrated and want to do things on my own. But like i said i dont have the heart to take the baby and leave i just stay awake while hes cuddling the baby cuz he always falls asleep
@noahleesmamma, well take the baby from him right before you go to sleep then. And place him in the crib. You can’t always control other people’s actions. Only yours
Yeah I agree a lot of men don’t have patience but u are right abt the bottles, feeding to much can cause so much gas pains n being to full, baby could even be experiencing acid reflux n over feeding whenever there’s a cry could make it way worse for baby. But if that’s the case explain this is him, tell n show him there’s more then just feeding baby.
Also I will say I was fully against sleeping in bed with baby, but u can get co sleeper and if u and ur spouse don’t move to much or have a big bed u can make it work. Half the time our son sleeps with us and lots of ladies admit to it on here. Turns out there are positives to co sleeping, and if u really can’t or don’t wanna look into the bassinets that like float next to ur bed side. There’s options for everything.. think u both need to try them and be more open to finding things that work for baby and both of you
Yea we have a bed thing that goes in our bed and we love it but the baby hates it lol he hates laying down flat. And im trying to get him used to it a little at a time. We are getting along for the most part at co parenting i just have my moments of frustration and sometimes wish i could make choices for the baby on my own but i dont have the heart to keep the baby from him and would never do somthing like that as long as hes safe with dad
@noahleesmamma, they do have little arch things u can buy for crib and stuff. We have one bc our son hated laying flat also but it seems like it was bc he had acid reflux going on. But I can imagine disagreeing abt baby being annoying or just frustrating, n yes as long as baby is safe. I’m sure u both have the best intentions
Most men don’t have the same patience as women. Sometimes crying can make them really anxious and he’s just trying to hurry up and satisfy him the only way he knows how. Try to find some alternate ways to help him calm down. White noise or the shh sound work really well.
I knew i would get people going again eventually lol. I love that his father loves him so much but he cant sleep in the bed with us.. Am i wrong? The reason i say i sometimes wish i could do it on my own is because everytime he crys my boyfriend starts getting really upset and stressed out. While im trying to talk to the baby and calm him his father is getting mad cuz hes crying. He only wants to be here when the baby is sleeping or awake and happy looking around he freaks out when baby is crying.for example he hates getting his diaper changed which is natural no babys like getting changed but he screams and my boyfriend starts yelling at me and go makes him a bottle when he just ate and puts it in his mouth. He is a really good father but gets mad at me for not wanting the baby in the bed while we sleep and he also has gas and has been crying alot and i hold him close to me and rock him which helps calm him and i told my boyfriend he cant feed him everytime he crys cuz his tummy hurts and he just did it anyway. Im trying to have patients and underatand but i ask people to do or not do things around my son and they just dont care. Im up with him all night no one helps and if hes crying at 2am my boyfriend gets pissed at me and tells me to shut him up. So yea i prolly should just leave
He’s only 2weeks old 🥴 And you already want to raise him on your own ohh mannn
You seem to have incredibly high expectations of everyone around you (including 4 year olds). While some of your feelings are valid, the way you communicated them seems angry and uncalled for. I recommend speaking with your doctor about postpartum depression/anxiety.
Sounds like your son has a wonderful loving father who understands that his child is a newborn and used to the comforts of the womb. Try reading up on the 4th trimester.
I feel for you bc you sound very overwhelmed and not really exercising your voice to speak out with your expectations. I would recommend speaking to someone too bc you just had a baby and maybe going through PPD. My husband love falling asleep with the babies on his chest. I would get on him about it but it was his preference. I stayed up often to just watch to make sure he didn’t drop him or roll over on him. I did share my concerns though with him. And he did what he needed to do to appease me. Please speak to him about ur concerns but also, please speak to your doctor too.