How much does your SO help out? Feeling totally exhausted and without help.

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How much does your SO help out?  Feeling totally exhausted and without help.

Victoria · Answer

We seem to go through phases. Sometimes he is really helpful and will jump in without me having to ask. Other times, it’s like he’s 15 again expecting someone to do it all for him

Blue IsMyColor · Answer

If he’s home, he does as much as I do. He takes them with him to run errands and lets them help out with yard work.  He honestly enjoys spending as much time with them as possible.

Kolbe · Answer

That's the odd thing, my spouse really wants our baby and loves him so much.  But won't actually take him unless I ask.

Samantha · Answer

Mine actually has improved so much recently since he’s been home most of the winter. It’s taken a while but I’m grateful. He does mostly the things I hate doing (like grocery shopping) so it’s a nice balance

Kolbe · Answer

Hope it gets to that as LO gets older, more balance

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He does a lot he helps me pretty much with everything except baths.

scream.queen · Answer

I do everything. I'm a SAHM. He goes to work and makes the money to support us.

Kolbe · Answer

Same here.  But going to work is 40 hours a week and being a SAHM is 24/7.

Amber Jacq · Answer

None.. He acts like he can’t do anything when it comes to helping out with our son, if I’m really sick or in extreme pain he gets his mom or sister to watch our son just so he can go run the roads with his cousin and friends, and play games on his phone. 😒 I can only imagine how much worse and how much more stress it’s going to be on me when I give birth to our second son when our second is born I’m never going to get any sleep or time to take care of myself because he refuses to help no matter how much I ask, beg, or cry for him to.. (Crying isn’t me trying to manipulate him into helping, I cry because I’ve had all I can take without help and I’m losing my mind.)

Tess · Answer

This makes me really
Sad

Kolbe · Answer

Ugg, thats hard.  I just got over a nasty cold and our LO too plus he had a UTI and I'm so exhausted.  Been like 3 weeks of no more than 5 hours of restless sleep everynight.  It's the same here, no matter how much.  Then I'm made to feel bad because I don't work.

Sabi · Answer

Mine cooks and that’s about it. Barley helps with the kids unless we go out or stay some where for a few days. I won’t have any more kids with him because he’s too lazy. I’m only 23 so I have some time to have more children when I’m older. I learned my lesson with him lol.

Deleted · Answer

Mine does everything. He’s a stay at home dad now. But he’s always helped since she came home from the nicu. I didn’t make her myself.

Tess · Answer

Mine cooks and gets the kids ready for bed...as for cleaning he does the bare minimum. Sometimes you gotta appreciate/accept what he does do...

Icebergahead · Answer

I can not complain. He does a lot. I appreciate him so much.

Kolbe · Answer

Do you get actual breaks for yourself? The most I seem to ever get is enough for a quick shower.

Icebergahead · Answer

@kolbecheese, yes I do. At work, at home when I am having a stressed moment. He will pitch in and help so I can destress and move on. We are a team and we both work.

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