I agree you should try to have your husband talk to them or at least have him there with you. If he won’t then fuck it, you’re the mom, sound controlling if you need to. I’m “controlling” with my son and idc who knows it. I don’t claim to know best about everything when it comes to him and I’ll listen and contemplate advice, but if I say no about something, then it’s NO. Period. Everyone has one chance to fuck up, after that they don’t get to be alone with him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I just went thru this and my husband dropped th ball on me to be the asshole. I was pissed