How do you potty train a child who has absolutely no desire to be potty trained, and actively fights against it?
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I literally took all the pullups and put her in underwear and she had like 2 accidents in her underwear and she hated being wet /poopy she learned real quick she had to go to the toilet if she had to pee/poop I didnt even give her a pull up at night time and just told her if she has to pee before she falls a sleep she needs to get out of bed and go use the bathroom.
I was in the situation where I needed to have my son potty trained for a preschool. I ended up having to give up my sons pre school space because he just wasn’t ready to potty train and this program required your child to be fully potty trained. I should’ve signed my son up at the school that did potty training assistance as a backup but you live and you learn, right?
My thing is, you really don’t want your child to start dreading anything that’s potty related. That could result in potty training taking forever. It took several more months, but I waited until there were cues and it went much better.
My son wanted to fight changes for a while too. The only thing that worked wasI would start talking to him about his diaper change 30 minutes beforehand so he knew what to expect. It took a week, but it did eventually calm down. Good luck
@nomli, my son was pretty much non verbal with words until he was 3. I figured out that he would go about ever 3-4 hours and just started changing him about every 4 hours.
Yes my pedi said the same thing when my boys were fighting diaper changes.
@nomli, give him like a 5 minute warning keep reminding him it’s almost time for a diaper change. Maybe that will help? I tried potty training my 1st before he was ready and it was a mess haha. I had to stop and restart a few weeks-month later. U do have some time and he may surprise u in a month or so he could be ready. I also agree with @sistersmainpiece, make a big deal of the potty seat and picking out underwear that def helped my kids
And to add to all of this wonderful input, you also have time to find a backup preschool for him that will assist you with his potty training just in case, especially if you have the issue of needing to go back to work or something like that.
I agree you wait. If you try to do it with a child who isn’t ready or willing, it can of course cause you both to be frustrated but sometimes the frustration and stress from it can cause them to take longer to be trained. My son was 3 when he was potty trained. I also did it so he could go to school. I made a big deal about being potty trained for school because he wanted to go to school and ride the bus. I let him pick out boxers and a potty seat. Honesty, you have some time. Maybe just let him pick out the underwear and seat and don’t push it. Just have him put on underwear here and there and have him go to the bathroom with you to sit on his seat sometimes. Just an introduction. From now until fall he may have it down.
U don’t haha. No seriously I’d hold off for now. It will just be frustrating for u both. Better to not even start right now and wait til he or she’s ready
I see you said it needs to be done by fall are you trying to get him in pre-K? My son pulls his diaper off even uses the potty sometimes (like three times) but he just doesn’t wanna keep doing it. He’s only interested every so often. I was hoping he’d be ready by the time school starts but idk 😫 maybe I’m not trying hard enough
Yeah. He doesn't need to be fully trained, because honestly, many kids aren't fully trained unitl 4 or 5, but he's supposed to at least be partially trained.
Diaper changes have turned into a fight, too, though. Like, we all have bruises.
@nomli from my experience, both as a parent and a child care provider.. ive learned that you cant force them. I had a 4 year old in my class once and his parents tried to force him bc of our facility requirements and he ended up with such fear and anxiety that it did more harm than good.
In my experience, you don't. You just wait for something to click in his head and he'll do it on his own. My 3 year has been very stubborn and still doesn't want to use a potty so I'm not trying anymore, I still give him the option to use a potty if he wants to but I don't force it. We'll be moving to a new house soon and the bathroom will be in a more convenient area so I'm hoping maybe once we're in our new house he'll get potty trained
@nomli yep same... Why does it have to be done by fall?
@nomli I see, do you already have a school he's enrolled in or no? Some schools will still accept a child if they aren't potty trained
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When you did you guys fully have your toddlers potty trained ? I’m having a hard time potty training my 2 year old any advice or tips on training a 2 year old boy ? 😩
Wait until they’re interested. If you push too hard they’ll view it as a negative thing and that could impact their self esteem.