Okay ladies I need your advice. So I’ve just recently starting having more to do with my mothers…
Okay ladies I need your advice. So I’ve just recently starting having more to do with my mothers side after a huge falling out. I am 2 weeks and 1 day away from being induced and I know just like the last pregnancies my family just doesn’t listen. My husband and I do not want anyone (family included) kissing our newborn. We have told my mothers side before hand at the hospital with my last pregnancy and well you guessed it, they still kissed him. How can I politely tell them to listen to us or they will be asked to leave. It probably wouldn’t be that bad but they are ALWAYS sick (my mom just got released from the hospital with pneumonia a few days ago) and they come from a house that is nasty and smells like cigarettes. I don’t want to be ugly because it’s family but I do not like them going against mine and my husband wishes when it comes to our kids. Thoughts??🤔
Clair Warren ·
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Since u said they are sick all the time and live in nasty condition i would keep the babys away.. I know how hard and mean that sounds but its best for the babys, there immune systems arent as strong and especially if they cant have enough respect not to kiss them.. Especially being sick! They should have enough sense and respect and love for the baby to not be kissing or even holding them if they are sick. Thats just selfish
Savanna Moore··
I agree, it’s honestly just hard. They literally never come to our house and I doubt they will come to the hospital if I get rude. The last pregnancy I didn’t even think they would show up. My mother got mad and threw a fit because I told her it wasn’t fair for her to be in the delivery room and not my mother-in-law too. So since I decided to keep the arguments down and everything fair between both sides I caught hell from my mom because “she is my mother” but what she didn’t understand was that I love and respect my MIL just as much as my mother and I would never have let one stay back there over the other. Their house being nasty is because of where they live and because my mother is the only one who tries to clean while my aunt doesn’t. (plus they have dogs inside who still use puppy pads🤢) I just hate having to be ugly when it comes to them because I always get the guilt trip or they try and make me feel bad. It’s honestly just a mess in general when dealing with them.🤦🏻♀️ Id rather have my son without any pain medication then have to deal with them about being respectful. 🤷🏻♀️
Jeane·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
Either tell them not to come or just tell them they can look but not touch and let the nurses no as well as your doctor
Savanna Moore··
I’ll probably just tell them not to come and if they do then they can come to my house once we get settled in and he isn’t so little, plus that’s where I would feel more in control.
Jeane·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
That's sounds like the best idea
Jeane··
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@smoore1103 then u know what she is being selfish. Just do what makes you happy cause at the end of the day it your choice and your happiness comes first. And your baby's health come first.
Savanna Moore··
girl she was like “I’ve raised several kids, I know and we aren’t stupid.” I told her I understood but I was still reminding everyone who wanted to come. She got mad and hung up on me then wrote me and told me not to be a “bitch.” I told her if she was going to act that way then don’t bother coming because she wouldn’t be welcome.
How can you claim to have raised several kids when her own son who will be 7 in June still wears diapers and pull-ups and “won’t” use the potty???
Jeane··
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
idk people give their advice but DNT follow their own advice. That's what I hate. She should have understood and respect your wishes.