How do you move forward? I’m seriously struggling. Long story short >> 3 months after my husband & I…
How do you move forward? I’m seriously struggling. Long story short >> 3 months after my husband & I got married I went through his phone to find him talking sexually to a girl back home. I decided to try to work through it. I went home to visit family to only get messages from another girl back home with screenshots of him talking sexual to her as well denying he was even married. I was ready to break it off & leave. He begged me, cried and pleaded to give him ANOTHER chance.., So I did which isn’t like me! Normally when I see a red flag I’m out immediately!! That’s been almost 2 years ago & im still struggling with trust. On top of that he leaves for deployment in a week or so. My gut both times told me something wasn’t right & my gut still tells me something isn’t right. How do you move past it?! 😩😔
Elizabeth Hebert·
Sounds like you need to move on instead of moving past. Relationships are built on trust, and if you don’t trust him, there’s no relationship
Saleena Jones··
Мама дочки-младенца
Yeah I kinda felt like this might be the best.
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I know what it’s like to have trust issues if you ever need to talk you can message me!.
Saleena Jones··
Мама дочки-младенца
You’re amazing! Thank you!!
Penelope ·
Usually your gut is right. What has he been doing different since the second time he cheated? How is he proving his love and regain your trust back?
Saleena Jones··
Мама дочки-младенца
Everything I ask of him. He cut out his social media accounts thinking it would make me feel better. He is trying but it’s hard to believe.
Penelope ··
@saleena, if he’s doing everything you ask of him, you have to start meeting him in the middle more. You took him back, and I’m not saying forget what he did, but start to move on and build on your relationship. Otherwise you guys are going to be stuck on an endless cycle.
Alyboo102293·
Мама четверых детей
Hi momma I’ve just dealt with all this and I can only speak from experience me and him have a 3 month old and right before I found out I was pregnant I had caught him up talking to a women he had previously cheated with, I took him back and he got deployed when I was about a month and a half pregnant. Well everything was fine till he started acting off & low and behold one of his buddies told on him 🤷🏼♀️. I’ve since left the relationship we were just engaged though I seriously have ptsd from the cheating and lying & it just wasn’t worth my happiness anymore. I’m in a great place now with great people and couldn’t been happier. Whatever you choose put you and your baby girl first 💕.
Saleena Jones··
Мама дочки-младенца
I’m sorry you had to go through that!! Thank you so much!
Ehenzon·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Man... thats so tough! I hate deployements too. But is there time to schedule marriage counseling session even just one or two? Or if youre religious you can talk to the chaplain? (Sorry not sure what branch you guys are but its the Navy clergy member). Sounds like you want to work it out but you are still and understandably suspicious of him.
Ultimately though i say Go with your gut...
BunsInMyOven·
You can’t move past distrust. Trust is either there or not. You have to ask yourself why you don’t trust him. Are you still upset about the past OR is he trust not there bc he hasn’t truly built it up?
If he is being forthright with you and open and honest and doing everything to be truthful to you, you guys are on the right track. But if you’re the one tracking him down for the truth, perhaps this deployment is a good chance for you to look at the relationship a bit more objectively.
Siobhan·
Мама дочки-младенца
:( im sorry thats happened to you. Im in a similar situation. My SO will be out of jail in June and when he went away a few months back he was cheating with someone he met online wjile i was 3mos pregnant. I was devastated and just hated him soooo much. But i decided to stick it out since i was preg. When he gets home in a few months i know itll be SO hard to trust him again im so anxious !!😭