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Samantha·Мама двоих (5 лет, 8 лет)
Could use some "it gets better" or "I felt that way, too" love. I found out that I am pregnant with #2 earlier this week. We had just looked at our finances and decided to wait a couple of years instead of just "letting it happen". I took the test so befote I called my OB, hoping she would just go ahead and prescribe me some birth control. I am just not excited about this new baby yet, at all. I have also been out of my anxiety and depression meds for a couple of weeks because my new insurance is being a giant bag of di---I mean jerks. So I dont know how much of this is my mental health, how much of it is being unready for this baby, or what. I just feel so guilty that I'm not feeling that excited pregnant lady feeling with this one like I was with my first.
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Samantha·Мама двоих (5 лет, 8 лет)
I appreciate this. My husband had a wee bit too much to drink last night and ended up telling one of our friends. He was so scared I'd be mad, but I was just so relieved that now we could talk to them about all of this and lean on them for support. I ended up calling my two closest girlfriends (one is the wife of the guy he told) and telling them. Not only do I feel so much better being able to talk this through with them, but I am starting to feel a little excited. As long as I dont think about the financial side of things too much, I can stave off the anxiety attacks.
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It WILL get better. This happened with my third baby. We halfhardtidly decided to stop preventing and then a couple weeks afterwards we decided to hold off and wait a little bit. It was already done and I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks later. It felt really surreal and it took me a little but longer to come to terms and enjoy the pregnancy. It was definitely a little bit of a struggle financially, but I wouldn't change it for the world. Sometimes things just happen for a reason.
I truly hope you can sort out your insurance issues with your medication, because that could definitely be a huge factor into why you're feeling the way you do. I've cut off medication cold turkey (from my own choice) and it doesnt feel good at all.
I truly hope you can sort out your insurance issues with your medication, because that could definitely be a huge factor into why you're feeling the way you do. I've cut off medication cold turkey (from my own choice) and it doesnt feel good at all.
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It will all be ok in the end. You will make this work and the excitement will come along trust me.
I got pregnant with my 2nd on birth control. We didnt want another for a few years as my oldest had just turned 1. It took me about 6 months to become excited. I was so upset for weeks when I took the test, then I got excited for the gender and it was another boy que another month or two being upset. In the end we have the most amazing bond ever and I couldn't imagine life without him
I got pregnant with my 2nd on birth control. We didnt want another for a few years as my oldest had just turned 1. It took me about 6 months to become excited. I was so upset for weeks when I took the test, then I got excited for the gender and it was another boy que another month or two being upset. In the end we have the most amazing bond ever and I couldn't imagine life without him
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Thank you for sharing! Definitely a relief to hear that I will get there in the end.
As far as gender goes, I'm hoping that I won't be too disappointed either way. I'd LOVE to have a boy this time, so that we have one of each just in case we decide not to have more, but if we have another girl we are at least more prepared with clothes and stuff.
As far as gender goes, I'm hoping that I won't be too disappointed either way. I'd LOVE to have a boy this time, so that we have one of each just in case we decide not to have more, but if we have another girl we are at least more prepared with clothes and stuff.
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@aurorabourealis I think I was thankful in the end I had another boy because I barely had to buy anything and that was such a relief financially
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It will be ok!! Be strong mama. Our finances went bad after our first too. And then I had our 2nd a little earlier than i would like.. our two are only 20 months apart. When i found out i was having another boy i really had bad gender disappointment, i cried and cried and i never got over it til he was born. When i saw him i was was so in Love and i Love him soooo much. Idk sometimes the universe has some weird way of giving us things we didnt ask for but are exactly what we need. One good thing we have going for our littles being so close is raising the Baby stages early and kind of at once.
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Go easy on yourself, it’s still so early and all the unknowns can be really scary! I will tell you, I have two girls barely 2 years apart and I can’t imagine life without both. Another on the way too, you never know what you can handle til you’re in the situation. You just have to take it day by day. Acknowledge your fears and feelings and try to remember that there is a lot beyond our control.
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Give it time. You might not ever feel how you think you're "supposed" to feel; whether you do or you don't, that's okay. I have experienced a lot of personal pains during my pregnancy, but that doesn't change the amount of love or additional joys my little girl will bring to my life.
On another note, you do have options. Sometimes it's just not the "right" time, and that's okay too. Sometimes everything is just as it should, we just haven't seen how it fits yet.
Either way, keep your head up. Time is really amazing. Things evolve. Things change often. You might see this as something completely different in a couple months. Hugs
On another note, you do have options. Sometimes it's just not the "right" time, and that's okay too. Sometimes everything is just as it should, we just haven't seen how it fits yet.
Either way, keep your head up. Time is really amazing. Things evolve. Things change often. You might see this as something completely different in a couple months. Hugs
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Thank you for the support and virtual hugs. I did terminate once in my early 20s, and while it was the right decision to make for that time, I dont think I personally could do it again. I'm glad to know that others have been here, and that it will get better. I was really afraid that the baby would somehow /know/ that I wasn't excited for the pregnancy, so I'm glad to know that wasn't your experience. Gives me hope.
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@saintsmama hopefully the further along we get the better it will get. Have you had your first ultrasound yet?
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I'm going through the same exact thing only my baby was only 5 months when I found out. Je is now 6 months and I'm still trying to get used to the idea. I just dont see myself being excited for this one. And same on the finances part the only good thing is I still have all my babys stuff to use on this baby but I'm still really depressed and tired.
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I'm sorry you are going through this, too, but I am so relieved to find out I'm not the only one.
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@aurorabourealis far from the only one. We will get through this.
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