So I posted about this earlier just to see what others mind sets were on the topic and got a lot of…

I don't see the issue with it but I also go to the strip club with my boyfriend

If my husband knew there was going to be strippers he wouldn't go. Also, just because there is going to be some there, doesn't mean he has to let them rub up and dance on him. He shouldn't want to disrespect you like that..

I personally wouldn't be okay with it. 🤷 I know it's supposed to be meaningless but there's no way I could be okay with my husband looking at other women half naked/naked dancing around. Just makes me super uncomfortable. I also don't understand why going to a strip club right before you commit to someone for the rest of your life is even a thing buuut... to each their own. 🤷 If is was in your position I'd ask him to sit that part out.

I’ve actually told my husband in the past to go if he was a groomsman and he’s been the one to reject the idea. For me, going to a strip club and getting a lap dance are two very different things. I’d be ok with him going but I’d expect him to not get a lap dance simply because having a half naked woman dancing on him makes me uncomfortable. Also I know if the tables were turned, he wouldn’t want another man dancing on me.

My husband would choose not to go, he would tell them to have "fun" without him.

Nope, nope nope! He should respect your wishes as his wife and keep them women off of him at all times. My husband and I go to strip clubs, together or not at all. This would be one of those situations where I'm sure my DH would probably decline the invite, due to our agreement because he respects my wishes.

Whatever you want he should respect - i wouldn’t be okay with it ... jus like my husband wouldn’t want a male stripper grinding his junk on my ass .. same difference . If your not comfortable with it , he should respect that. That’s what marriage is about ... it’s not about friends and their parties it’s about what you spouse wants . I hope he listens to you and doesn’t attend

I am a totally no strip club person usually. BUT when my husbands sister was getting married I let him go to New Orleans where they planned to drink and go to a strip club with her husband and their friends. Only because I know them all and trust them all. Now if it was with guys I didn't really know it would be a hard no! And you have to personally pay for a lap dance so if he doesn't do that then no one should be on him. Unless they have a personal stripper and idk how that works lol.

I think this comes down to respecting your wishes within your relationship. If you’re not comfortable he shouldn’t be going. Just like if he wasn’t comfortable with something he’d expect you to respect him enough not to do it.

I’d hate it I think stag does or whatever shouldn’t even be a thing 🤦🏻‍♀️one last night of what it’s wrong in my eyes

Not a fan 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ I understand it’s a fun thing for men to do in situations like this, and I trust my husband 100% as well, but I honestly HATE the idea of another woman exposed like that to my husband. I never thought I’d be one to care, until my husband got a private dance at a club with his friend one night. It made me sick to my stomach. And I explained to him why, and he understands!

I would think that it's disrespectful to have a strip on you. Party or not. I wouldn't mind if my so went but no girl will be on him. That's a respect thing and he should say no thank you and just leave it at that.

I wouldn't mind him going but he wouldn't be getting lap dances.

It definitely depends on your relationship. Trusting him to make the right decision. If you don’t feel comfortable with it then he shouldn’t partake in that part. He can still be there but he can pass on the strippers.

My husband went for his bachelor party. I was fine with it because I trust him completely. Was I happy he went? I mean I wasn’t thrilled but it’s a guy thing that I’ll never understand. He told me ALL about it. He said they are all pretty gross so he wasn’t “turned on” by any of it. He did get lap dances which he didn’t want but his friends paid for and only one thing REALLY bothered me but it’s not something he did or asked for and he understood why it upset me. NOW one of his married friends went to private room alone with one and THAT to me is questionable!

My husband would tell his friend he’s not coming BEFORE he even tells me about the strippers lol. He knows that would be a hell to the nah 🤣

I’m just not comfortable with it.

Is it okay with you if he gets one? If not, tell him to not get one and that you are giving him the benefit of the doubt. And hopefully he doesnt break that trust.

He can just sit back and have a good time with the guys. I mean, hes throwing it for his best friend. Not a free for all, type of night.

Out of respect for you and your marriage he should not go. His friend should understand that somethings just arent comfortable for others. As your husband and as a man he should respect how you feel. I trust my husband ya but I dont want them all over him. Strippers dont care they only wanna make a buck n the further n nastier the better. To me in inappropriate as all hell. That to me is just not ok. Its ashame that he is even trying to go and disrespect you like that. I'd kill my husband if he even thought to challenge me on the decision.lol

I wouldn’t mind him going. But I wouldn’t be okay with him getting danced or rubbed on.