HELP PLEASE. .Need yalls advise on the situation, please read everything and then respond on what you would do and how... Ryan is my boyfriend of 3&1/2 years, we got together when I was almost 4 months pregnant with our daughter, we live in missouri... Her biological father wasn't in the picture after I had found out about my pregnancy at about 6weeks because he immediately started trying to cause a miscarriage by abusing me, he died on halloween; bio fathers parents (who live in ny) have since been in contact with me about my daughter and them wanting to be involved to a point. Well their attorney called my phone today.. Left a voice message saying that they wanted to know if we'd cooperate with a DNA test through them through the family courts in NY. Ryan's said I can deny the DNA testing.. Problem with denying it is that since they have their attorney involved it means that they probably already have paperwork going through the court if we say no so its just prolonging the inevitable there. They were messaging me today about coming to Missouri to visit and meet Ryan and our daughter again and I told Ryan about them asking and that they said that they wanted to take us all out one day and do dinner or something with all of us after I told them Ryan and I hadn't decided if it was a good idea yet and that IF we did decide to let them visit they would not be left alone with our daughter at all and her and I wouldn't go anywhere with them unless Ryan was with us too. they said that they completely understood that due to them being strangers and all but I just don't know what to do and Ryan is understandably frustrated about it all and so I don't really know who else to talk to. Like I get that they are biologically connected but its been two years, and they didn't care until after their son died. And now they just want to jump into our lives. Ryan's been through so much with the accident and being out of work and stressing about finances and me trying to apply at places and dealing with the cop stuff and everything and they just add that much more stress just by sending gifts and wanting to be involved and now wanting to visit and filing for DNA testing in NY. I filed for DNA testing to be done through dfs here in Missouri already about 2months ago because they told me it could get benefits for our daughter and because it is their steps when filing for TANF and bio gparents already know that