What are effective ways to get a 2 year old to stop hitting their sibling???
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It helps most of the time, but then he breaks down into tears (sometimes, depending on how tired he is. If he’s tired forget it lol)
@j.andtaysmama Awe buddy! Hopefully as you keep doing it he'll start to understand why he needs to give her space. If he's tired that's one thing but I'd totally break out something we don't use too often to keep him occupied and cheer him up. Then he'll know he's not being punished and it will be a more positive experience!
Why is he hitting ? Is it for a reason or just because?
@j.andtaysmama oh I would correct both of them at the same time . I do that with both my kids . I mostly just tell them no and if they keep going I lock her up in her play pen or high chair. My son I lock him in his carseat . But other times I also just move them away from each other and it works for a while . I would say your 5 year old may know better but your 2 year old is still learning.
@momofboth, oh, Jackson doesn’t hit, Taylor does. Jackson knows better
@j.andtaysmama oh I okay yea I do time out and lock her in her play pen or high chair, stroller or carseat .
Pp's suggestion may work for some but time outs only made my DD act out more. I had to find other ways to help her understand appropriate behavior. Unfortunately we did as PP said and would put her in her room for time out and now at almost 3 she hates her room because she associates it with being in trouble. If you do the time out route choose a true "time out" space. I think sometimes speaking to the child no matter how little they may be is the best. Tell her it hurts, it's not nice, it's bad to hit. I know hitting them doesn't usually teach anything but to hit more but I find a light tap on the hand and a firm statement of "see it's not nice" works best for some. I did that to my DD 1 time and she didn't do it again. It's truly hard to say what works because we are all so different but I think positive redirection and helping the older child understand to walk away when this happens is best. Help them know that baby has to learn just like they did and it takes time. Be firm but patient. Best wishes!
@j.andtaysmama Sounds like you have a multi layered lesson to teach here. Brother needs to learn boundaries and what is ok and sister needs to learn not to hit. Does brother know how to say stop when someone makes him uncomfortable? Perhaps you could push him to that moment when he is asking you to stop and then use it as an example of "that's how you make baby feel when you________ and so she hits so I need you to stop when she says stop just like you want me to stop when you say stop". Does that sound like something he would understand and respond well to?
@xryztalroze, this is gonna sound terrible, but he does not like the taste of his own medicine. Lol but he just forgets when he has his mind set on doing something for her/with her. If we see it happening we have to get firm with him to get him to quit... for instance just before I made this post he was trying to put a tiny finger puppet on her finger, she didn’t want it, he kept on, and she hit him. I told him several times to quit bothering her about it, but he didn’t listen. So I had to say, “Jackson if you would have stopped when she asked, she wouldn’t have hit you and you wouldn’t be crying.. right?” He said yes. Then I said “Taylor, hitting brother is not the way to get him to stop” nothing seems to have sunk in with them😂
@j.andtaysmama Well, maybe it's one of those "let them figure it out on their own"scenarios. Not saying that hitting is ok but sometimes as parents we want to fix everything and we can't. Stay firm and don't let it get out of hand, but maybe step back a little and see how it goes. I think what you did in that case telling him "see sister wouldn't have hit you if you had respected her" may be the only way to teach him and is perfect for helping him learn. Sadly, we can't fix everything. Sorry mama! They will eventually learn just stay firm and keep setting a good example!!! Hugs mama!!!
I second time out - just not in bed. You don’t want their room to be a “bad place” for them. We use a chair in a corner where he has no toys and can’t see the tv. And you have to be consistent. We do 2 minutes at a time, after a certain point I say it’s naptime (cause that’s usually when he’s overly aggressive) and he’s a new kid afterwards.
Yeah, she hates time outs. But if she gets to crying too hard she passes out... so we definitely have to keep her by us. And she only hits when he just won’t quit! He’s very obsessive and tries to “help” her a lot, he means well, but when she’s had enough that’s enough. Which is something I’m trying to teach him as well. He doesn’t know when someone asks him to stop, he needs to stop.
@j.andtaysmama Sorry respond to you response below, didn't see this one. My dd1 is like that with her baby sister. Her behavior is appropriate but she doesn't know when to stop and let the baby have space. Perhaps explain to him that just as he likes to be a big boy his baby sister is learning to be a big girl and can do some things alone. Ask him to watch her do them so she is safe but to let her learn. Tell him he will be very proud of her when she can do these things just like you are proud of him when he is able to do things on his own.
It sounds like these ladies gave you some great ideas in regards to positive reinforcement and explaining that it's not okay to hit. Is there a way you're able to split them up to give her space before she gets frustrated to the point of hitting him? Redirecting him to another activity might help a lot.