NEED HELP PLEASE .So I’m 19 & currently 24 weeks pregnant with a sweet baby boy that I can’t wait to…
NEED HELP PLEASE .So I’m 19 & currently 24 weeks pregnant with a sweet baby boy that I can’t wait to meet❤️.This is my first and only pregnancy. I met the father of my child last year around New Years. We kicked it off automatically & Soon got our first apartment together. I didn’t know his toxic abusive ways until it was too late & had already fell in love with him & soon found out I became pregnant. He previously was in a 3 year relationship with his first baby momma ( daughter which is a year old) (She has 2 kids one which isn’t his.)When me and him first met he didn’t really talk about his baby mother & just appeared to be distant with her.. But anyways recently we have been real distant so just a couple weeks ago. We got into an argument & he laid his hands on me leaving the side of my head swollen and with a black eye. (I later found out that he had hit his previous baby mother too)My family soon found out & wanted me to press charges but I didn’t. I ended up just moving back in with my grandparents. Soon my father and little brother found out the situation that had happened. So they flew in from Tampa, FL. So my plan before I even met this guy was to move with my brother and dad that was until I go pregnant and decided to live with my baby father. My question is, should I feel bad for moving back to Florida without giving the opportunity to work things out with my baby father? He’s recently talking to other babymother and going back and forth between us two. He wants both of us and loves both of us a lot.. But he’s making me feel bad for wanting to give birth in a whole different state taking away the opportunity for him to see my belly grow and to be there while me giving birth. I had ideas of moving back to my grandparents (where my mother lives) once the baby is born because I really don’t have a female figure to help me out once my baby is born. I want my son to have a dad in his life. I just don’t know if I’m making the right decision to make a big move. I’m desperate and don’t know what to do please help
sherry S·
Congrats on your 1st pregnancy #1 love yourself enough .No man becomes abusive overnight (speaking from exp when I was a young teen mom. You deserve to be with a Man who Doesn't put his hands on you ever! Your child deserves a happy mother who isn't being beaten.
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Congrats! And I wouldn’t be with a man that puts his hands on you....I’ve been there and trust me it doesn’t get better it only gets worse...you and your child don’t deserve that you deserve better and id think about not wanting my child in that kind of environment...goodluck hunn❤️💎
Oksana·
В ожидании первенца
I have a similar situation with my baby's father.
Please remember no matter how hard you try you cannot change people. He will not change. He won't understand. He's already been through this once, with his first baby mother. He will not respect you. And he will teach your son how to treat people the way he treats you.
Either you cut him out now and cause pain when you explain that daddy wasn't the right man... Or cause more pain when you have to keep explaining why daddy still isn't the right man but now he lays his hands on both of you
Nikki V·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I think you made the right decision by leaving. If you move in with your dad and brother they can be the male figures in his life. I would maybe still text him and keep him some what in your life. I would move away and not get back together with him. For me if any man hit me I'd be gone. I'm sorry about your situation and that you will figure out what is best for you and your baby.
A J·
I agree with both the ladies above 100%!! You don’t need that and your child doesn’t need to see that.. Or end up being abusive as well.
It sounds like you have a loving family with proper support.. Don’t EVER settle for anything less.
deleted-user·
In my opinion he lost any right to either you or your baby the second he laid hands on you. Especially if he has a history of doing so, you need to get out before he does worse or lays hands on your child.
Elie Tru·
Мама сына (1 год)
I say leave while you can you get too far along you can’t fly and honestly if he cared for that baby at all he wouldn’t of hurt you putting the baby at risk do it now your baby doesn’t need to grow up around that he did it before you and to you almost sure he will do again . However only god knows for sure good luck darling and congratulations on motherhood
Day·
Мама двоих (4 года, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
Leave while you can, there’s no reason to stick around for a “man” that puts his hands on you, especially while pregnant.
And on top he’s clearly trying to dick around the both of you, so if you stay, you’re just going to regret it and always wonder why you didn’t do what’s best for YOU and your son.
Delete Please. ·
Definitely don’t feel bad you needed to do what’s best for you and your baby. Hitting you while pregnant? That’s a definite NO. Hitting you period is a No but the audacity of him to do this while you’re carrying his child shows he does not care about the baby or you. I know you love him girl... trust me I loved my first borns dad a lot as well and it was hard to let go but I did and found someone better. My advice will be to let him gooooo it’s a new year so perfect timing to just cut the toxic people off that are in your life right now. You’re still very early along in your pregnancy so I’d suggest cutting him off for a few weeks as well is best. A month or two before your due date contact him and try to develop a co-parenting relationship because at the end of the day he’s still the father and you should atleast give him a chance to be in the babies life.
💞Astrid💞·
For the safety of your baby, don’t look back. That’s something he will not have control of, and a tragedy can happen. He will not stop doing it as much as he tries.
Amanda Pecenka·
В ожидании первенца
Congrats on you’re pregnancy girl💕 but please, please don’t go back to that man. In my eyes he has no right to be that beautiful baby’s father, and you certainly owe him nothing. If he can lay hands on you while you’re pregnant with his child, then imagine what he could do after the child is born. I know this must be a hard decision but I promise you that it’s the right one😌 if you need anyone to talk to you can message me anytime girl!! I wish you and your baby the best!
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (39 нед.)
He doesn't love you. If he did he wouldn't of treated you that way and he wouldn't be bouncing between two different people. This is what happens when you make a life with someone you don't actually know.
You need to get some therapy for yourself bc this is not love and its not normal and the fact that you can't see that is alarming.
Wake up! You are about to be a mother and its your job to take care of and protect that child.
Katie·
Мама сына-младенца
Right now my love you need to worry about you and the baby and not his feelings bc a man wouldn’t put his hands on a women and that abuse will not stop go be with you family right now you need all the support you can get!
Keila·
Мама двоих (10 лет, 18 лет)
Stay away... I lost my sister when she was 25 due to Domestic Violence