So I’m 19 & currently 24 weeks pregnant with a sweet baby boy that I can’t wait to meet❤ .This is my…
So I’m 19 & currently 24 weeks pregnant with a sweet baby boy that I can’t wait to meet❤️.This is my first and only pregnancy. I met the father of my child last year around New Years. We kicked it off automatically & Soon got our first apartment together. I didn’t know his toxic abusive ways until it was too late & had already fell in love with him & soon found out I became pregnant. He previously was in a 3 year relationship with his first baby momma ( daughter which is a year old) (She has 2 kids one which isn’t his.)When me and him first met he didn’t really talk about his baby mother & just appeared to be distant with her.. But anyways recently we have been real distant so just a couple weeks ago. We got into an argument & he laid his hands on me leaving the side of my head swollen and with a black eye. (I later found out that he had hit his previous baby mother too)My family soon found out & wanted me to press charges but I didn’t. I ended up just moving back in with my grandparents. Soon my father and little brother found out the situation that had happened. So they flew in from Tampa, FL. So my plan before I even met this guy was to move with my brother and dad that was until I go pregnant and decided to live with my baby father. My question is, should I feel bad for moving back to Florida without giving the opportunity to work things out with my baby father? He’s recently talking to other babymother and going back and forth between us two. He wants both of us and loves both of us a lot.. But he’s making me feel bad for wanting to give birth in a whole different state taking away the opportunity for him to see my belly grow and to be there while me giving birth. I had ideas of moving back to my grandparents (where my mother lives) once the baby is born because I really don’t have a female figure to help me out once my baby is born. I want my son to have a dad in his life. I just don’t know if I’m making the right decision to make a big move. I’m desperate and don’t know what to do please help
Kristi P·
Don't fall for his BS. Keep him away from you and your unborn baby. I agree with your family. You should've pressed charges and got a restraining order. But that's in the past now. He does not love you. He loves the fact that he can fool you into believing he does. Do what's best for you and your baby and stay from away from the monster.
Chawanna·
Girl. RUN. RUN AS FAST AND AS FAR AS YOU CAN. Do NOT fuck with a low life that will put his hand on a pregnant woman. Especially the woman CARRYING HIS CHILD. Dont listen to him. He’s trying to manipulate you and guilt trip you. It’s all bullshit. It’s a complete and total lie. Take it from someone that didn’t have this advice or anyone to hear it from and is now stuck trying to escape it.
ETA: you can message me if need be. I’ll do what I can to help ❤️
Kailynn·
Мама сына-младенца
if he puts his hands on you once, he will do it again!
deleted-user·
Go where the baby n you can be safe. His feelings once he put his hands on you is done. Dont feel no pity for a man who put his hands on you esp while you're expecting. Things will only escalade when the childs born. I would be bags packed and no looking back. Better a single parent then in an abusive relationship. And him going back and forth not cool. Move on get safety for sake of yourself and your unborn.
Cams ·
He doesn’t love you. If he truly did he wouldn’t have abused you. Move with your family and raise your child in a healthy environment.
If you still don’t know what to do, just imagine your son doing this to someone. Is this the kind of man you want to raise? One that treats women like trash and beats them? Your answer should be a resounding NO.
Kimberly Dilworth·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 6 лет)
I'm kinda in a situation similar. Except he haven't put his hands on me but just 2 days ago threaten to hit me. We been together over a year and a half. But I didn't know how he really was until he had nowhere to go and my parents let him come stay in our shed last year in may . He lost his job right after I finally got one.. and he changed to needing to me and showing me love and affection. Worried ab me leaving him I had a bday the 24 Aug found out I was pregnant the 29. We didn't know what to do. He got his job back and I lost mine. And he changed from needing me to not giving a dam ab me is how I felt. Constantly accusing me of cheating and lying we are so distant and have been really since I became pregnant. Idk what to do. Bc I dnt want a third baby and no daddy. I have two already and I have been doing it all alone for 6 years. He acts like he dnt want to be with me but he want just up and leave from here .. feel like he plays with my head and when I try not to care ab the bs he comes at me with he turn everything around like it's me he manipulate me in so MANY ways.. I just regret every getting with him and trying to make us work.. .. I'm sorry had to let that out. It bothers me soo bad.. I have no friends or family to TALK to with how I feel AND what's going on with me. .
U was talking about Ur baby daddy. My oldest son's Dad we was high school sweethearts he was the first guy I brought home to my parents. We was on and off doing high school then got back together when we was 21.. he had changed from high school. He was abusive and wanted his own but didn't want to take on responsibilities and we wanted a child together. I didn't think I could even hav a baby. Found out I was pregnant we was excited. But I knew he was going to do right. He havent yet so I left him while I was pregnant. . He dnt do much for our son but he's a great babysitter. . Anyway just think about what u have to do for ur son what's best if the Father wants to be in his life he will show it. He will come to u .. I would move and be around family. Bc he going back and forth between y'all for what!?? He doesn't know what he wants.
Carissa·
Fuck no, leave girl . I been there and done that
Marion ·
Child run,run,run once an abuser always will be don't feel guilty your child Will be fine