So my mother in law last her best friend today and I have no problem with her mourning the lose of…

So my mother in law last her best friend today and I have no problem with her mourning the lose of her friend but she wants me to come over and leave my little boy with someone else because he’s to loud and she has a headache and wants me to just bring the baby and I told her no because the baby is loud too and I’m not dumping my child with someone else and bringing my daughter to see you that’s mean to him . She told me how I was rude and she’s having a rough time and I’m not being supportive what do you guys think