It's their kid and their house too. "Helping" makes it sound like they are taking care of someone elses kid and home. The majority is my responsibility but if my husband does a chore or something with our kids.. it's called being an adult and parenting... not "helping" or "baby sitting".

I probably will have the unpopular opinion here but when I stayed at home with my youngest for 2 years my husband worked and brought home all the money and paid the bills so I did all the housework and took care of the kids. He still played with them and showed them attention but I did all the "work". Didn't bother me at all!

It really depends on the scenario. My husband helps when he’s around (which is like never due to his job unfortunately... he’s been traveling for 4 weeks straight now 😅). When he’s not traveling, he’s working 70 hours a week so we really don’t see him much ever. But the best way he can really help for me personally is by spending time with the kids when he’s home so I can catch up on the chores. It’s impossible to get things done with the kiddos around. One of them always needs something. There’s never truly a free moment where they’re both content. And it’s better for him to hang out with the kids while I cook and clean because they deserve time with their dad. It’d be dumb for him to come home after traveling and working all the time just to cook and clean. He should be spending quality time with them, not doing chores. But I honestly don’t expect him to do too much because he works his ass off to provide for us financially. Literally doing manual labor. Luckily he does like to cook and clean because he knows it makes me happy. He also does his own laundry and cleans up after himself. I appreciate him so much. When we both worked, we both kept up with the household because the situation was completely different back then. But for now, I view it as my job to keep the house clean. The last thing I want to do is stress him out and ask too much of him. I’m so grateful that I get to relax at home with our babies instead of still being a working mom.

See I have to remind my husband that his job isn't to "help" because he is a parent. He made these babies too so he has to take care of them just the same. Working might be a big part of what his job is but so is parenting. Since I have online classes he has to pitch in more.

I’m a stahm and my hubby does help me at time but I have to tell me babe make her a bottle or change her diaper. Sometime he does it on his own. He doesn’t wash dishes or cook. He will cook occasionally. He helps me fold the laundry most of the time. So it is possible for your hubby to help you. Jus gotta push it.

Mine does literally zero. I take the kids everywhere, even if i have to go get just a gallon of milk. He watches them occasionally but VERY rarely. Im hoping to be starting work in the next week or so, so he's gonna have to step up some since i wont be home til 630 or 7pm. He has washed dishes 2x in the past year. And before even then I did it all. He doesnt even know how to put his clothes less than a foot from where he drops them to the floor, in the hamper. And i ALWAYS do 100% of the cooking and housework. He feels hes entitled to it though.

Mine will help with our kids but doesn't do any housework at all.

Uhh he what now? While I tried to do 90% of the housework when I was a SAHM, I still expected my husband to do some things. Put away his own clean clothes, put his dishes in dishwasher after dinner, take trash out etc. Weekends were 50/50. As for childcare? Girl, tell him to man up. Whether or not you are working, a child needs engaged parents. He is EQUALLY responsible.

He helps out some when he's home. He changes diapers, helps with laundry and dishes, we both clean up at the end of the night. Just because I don't get a paycheck doesn't mean I don't work, and that I don't deserve time off or help. I still do the majority just because I'm home more, and I do 90% of the cooking.

When ds is born I plan to the majority. SO will be hands on when he's home but I plan to give him his down time too.