im in the same situation

I literally just watched an episode of divorce court regarding this EXACT issue. Everything you felt the wife felt the same..but the judge gave a good understanding on how to handle it. Love and support on your end and BOUNDARIES being set on his end. The only way things will change is if he speaks up about it. He needs to have a one on one conversation with her and work on setting some much needed boundaries.

Girlllllll, this sounds like my situation a few years ago. message me !

California is a 50/50 state when it comes to custody. Definitely go through the courts. You will probably get more time than you guys currently have.

Court solves all those problems. Puts everything clear cut and you don’t have to deal with the drama they set up a custody agreement that works for everyone

What does their court order say for visitstion?

Any $$ in her hands will not be spent on the kids and if she finds $ on them she takes it because she feels they don’t need a lot of $.. A while back we had got Chinese takeout before we dropped them off and the next time we got the kids his daughter told us she ate all of the shrimps out of her food

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You’re right about the trust part.. he’s currently at the gym expecting me to be dressed when he gets back to take the kids out.. he doesn’t want to go that route because she would want custody, she does have them most of the time because she wants to, she only let him get the kids out of her convenience.. but I’ll talk to him after he drops them off tomorrow

Part of Marriage is about trust. You should tell him exactly how you are feeling its not good to hold it in you may explode. And trust that togther you can work something out. If your husband and his kids mom dont want to set up visitation schedules thru court they call always write an agreement and have it notorized. That way they only really need to communicate when necessary. He can also give her money orders for any financial things the kids may need.