so these couple of days it's been really hard for me, and I want to vent but also need advice and support cause I feel so alone atm. I used to live with my bf, but it was an apartment too small for the people who are living in it, me and my bf didn't even have a room to ourselves, we would sleep in a closet. but anyways, I recently moved out because I needed space for my baby's things, I had recently received baby clothes and blankets but didn't have space to put them so I moved out back to my parents house, I asked my bf to move in with me but he didn't want to, he said he didn't feel fully comfortable living with my family but I know it's because of my parents. I was fine with it because he told me that he was getting a new apartment by the end of this month. I told my parents and they both got very angry, saying that he doesn't love me, that if he really truly loved me that he would of have no problem and move in with me even if it was a month. I didn't really mind it though, and then my bf quit his job because it paid little and he wanted to work in a job where they pay more, and recently he started working in another job that pays more, my parents hate him a lot now, they both said that my bf hasn't bought our baby nothing and that he needs to start buying his things because I am 7 months right now, they say that he doesn't want to grow up and be a man/dad, they tell me that he's lazy and doesn't care about me and my baby. my bf doesn't know anything about this, and let me tell you, I do love him with all my heart, I want my baby to grow up with a dad not just a mom and I want what's best for my unborn child. another thing is yesterday both my parents were both pissed about how I go visit him but he never comes to visit me but the thing is my dad doesn't want him in the house so how does he suppose to visit me? even though my mom knows that, and he's the one wanting to see me but his older brother always takes the car to work and go out on dates, and so my bf can never come pick me up. my mom also said that if I want to be with him "to pack my things and leave, go suffer" and if I want support from her and my dad to dump him. she also said that I don't care for my baby, all I care is about myself and that I don't put the baby before me when it's not even true, she said if I don't want my baby to give him to her when he comes out and even started crying! like what kind of bs is that. my mom and dad wants me to leave my bf and stay with them, cause they'll maintain me and my child rather than my bf. honestly I don't know what to do and I need advice and support right now please. I feel so alone and i feel like my parents are against me and want me to please them, I've been sad, stressing out a lot and crying because of my parents, they don't even know how unhappy they are making me feel. but anyways please send advice, support and hope please, I really need it so I can know what would be best for me, my future and my baby.
I'm sure your parents have good intent just by this!
It's just my opinion, but if your bf truly loved you, he'd be there with you (irregardless of his relationship with your parents) why? Because he should be there FOR YOU! Especially closer to the end of pregnancy. He can save and do all he needs to while there.
Ultimately, it's you and your bf family that's being started and I know it's challenging, but you'll need your support system so I'd have an open conversation with your bf and parents and set expectation. Let everyone know how you feel and what you want.