I need my husband to get on my page when we go they our last pregnancy. I want to wait til birth for…

I need my husband to get on my page when we go they our last pregnancy. I want to wait til birth for gender & have like a diaper shower thing and he wants to find out the gender and have a baby shower if it's a boy or a gender reveal party. I absolutely do not want to have another baby shower 😩 if I have to find out then maybe I'll keep it a secret & do the sneak and do a sneak peak at 10 weeks and surprise him with an announcement & gender reveal all in one lol. He's so difficult 😑