So I have something on my chest, before I was even pregnant, me and my husband didnt have sex as…
So I have something on my chest, before I was even pregnant, me and my husband didnt have sex as much. Saturday, I had brought up the idea to be intimate. During intercourse. I wasnt into. After I had went to the bathroom and cried I was left with a feeling of guilt and as if I had been forced. But I wasnt. What should I do?
Kacy Schneider ·
I not really sure what you’re asking? I mean my first thought is y’all need to talk. What’s going on to make you feel so distant? I always say communicate communicate communicate.
Felicity ··
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Idk what to do. I feel like it's my duty as a wife to make sure some of my husbands needs are met, but afterwards I have a feeling of regret.
Kacy Schneider ··
I get that because ever since having my baby I’m super never in the mood. Like I would so much rather go to sleep and I feel like I have to sometimes. But we talk about it a lot and I let him know how I’m feeling that way he knows it’s nothing he’s doing. I’m not sure why you feel regret though? That’s a little confusing. I think that’s something you’re going to have to figure out. Because I may be extra tired when he finally convinces me to do it. But the only time I might regret it is if he’s being an ass the next day and I’m like “why am I sacrificing and he’s being a dick”. But again we talk when that happens. Maybe he just needs to use his hand for awhile. Pregnancy makes you’re hormones really crazy and you’re getting bigger and less comfortable too. Which of course is going to make it harder. I think it’s worth a conversation. If he respects and loves you he will at least try to understand
Shannon·
Is this something that recently started happening? Or has it been this way since the beginning?
Felicity ··
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Its hasn't always been this way, I wouldn't say it started when I got pregnant, a few months before though
Emily ·
Мама дочки (5 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
I completely understand this! It happens to me sometimes. If I'm not 100% in the mood this happens, and it's happened when I thought I was in the mood. It's seriously the worst feeling ever. I personally havent said anything to my husband about it because it's nothing he is doing wrong and I know he will worry that he is. The only thing that seems to work for me is just to not force it. Get yourself in the mood and make sure its 100% what you want! Good luck.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (35 нед.)
I think you need to figure out why you feel regret. Tmi but are you able to orgasm? Are you not getting what you need emotionally like hugs or cuddling?
Felicity ··
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Yes I orgasm, I think my selfishness gets in the way, when it comes to me pleasing him
Nati B·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (35 нед.)
I don’t know you or your husband therefore I can not possibly know how close you are. However, perhaps if you aren’t feeling closeness you brought up being intimate because you wanted to feel close with him and realized that physical isn’t the same as emotional closeness. So that is one theory as to why you may feel regret. Again, I’m not judging and I am not trying to say you and your husband aren’t close. Just throwing out a possibility.
Shannon·
@felicity300079 perhaps your libido has decreased. The cause can be hard to pinpoint. Medication, stress and many other things can contribute to it. There's natural ways to boost your libido though