Anyone have a toxic mother too? Mine lies, steals money, drinks and becomes belligerent, aggressive…

I have an alcoholic as a mother. She’s fine when she’s not drinking but when she is she becomes self righteous and hurtful. Unfortunately I’ve had to move back in with her when I found out I was pregnant and she’s put me out twice since I’ve been here, while she was drunk. She jumps from man to man just wanting to have anybody to call her somebody. We’re not close at all but she can’t wait for my daughter to get here and in my mind I just really don’t want my daughter around her alcoholism and negativity so the bond she thinks they’re going to have is not going to happen. She belittles me and says and does all type of hurtful things only to not remember them when she’s sober, never apologizes and just tries to move on as if things are ok. I asked her to not drink at my baby shower a couple weeks ago and she couldn’t even do that 🤦🏾‍♀️ I was afraid of having a daughter because I never wanted to be a mother like her...but maybe God has other plans, I pray for mine and my daughters relationship already! Sorry, but this post really hit home lol *rant over

I have a toxic mother. Grew up in a lot of bars. To this day the bartenders where we lived still know me. I ended up cutting my mother out of my life when I was 14. (It’s been 12 years now) I tried fixing our relationship after I became an adult. But she ruined that too. Continued to drink. Broke the promises she made and kept lying to me. I don’t even think she knows I have a 1 year old. And honestly I couldn’t care less. I do not want my son to even know her.

@andronikiaward @db413 I have nothing against drinking, I like to drink, but I mean either way shes just a cunt lol. She's full of hate , she's just a hateful person . She makes the problems and plays victim

@bennysmom oh same, my father has told so much more about her, how they had savings saved up for us but she stole that, she would use other people's credit cards in the family, or put credit cards under their names and use it. Something like that, just some fraudulent stuff. She's fucked my father on taxes so many times. I just don't understand, like I'm probably more poor than her, and I can still pay my bills, my credit cards, insurance etc. And buy luxury items. (Not super expensive just things we don't need really, which will probably end when we move into our house lol) like it's so strange, she sends my sister to a private school which costs 15k a year, and she claims she can't make the payments , however she made my step dad pay 8k one time, and she never paid him back. She was in a car accident in 2012 and sued the lady I guess? Got money? But she said she got 14k at one time and was supposed to get another set of money, we seriously never heard about it again, and seriously don't know what happened to the money because she was supposed to pay my step dad the money back and she only have him 1500 ....so....it's just weird shit, I wish she didn't lie and told the truth, like I wish I could know the truth...but I don't think that'll ever happen

@bennysmom oh yeah my mom plays those games, when I was in 8th grade she told me she had cancer and it was a lie. Winter of 2015 she claimed she had a heart attack, even got quadruple bypass in January of 2016 and then blames my step dad and i for her surgery. She says we forced er, um no we didn't. So now she complains she has problems from it, and all doctors are quacks, and well, she still smokes religiously, like a pack a day and can down a 6-12 pack a few times a week, so idk . She's just fucked. Yeah my dad said my mom was doing drugs, like cocaine , also popped pills and drank. There was a time when I was 10 she wouldn't come home at night and we wouldn't know where she went and then my dad would have to leave for work at 5am and he didn't want to leave us home alone. Till this day I have no idea where she want, what she did etc. All I know is our family is split apart and I'm just dead inside. Im not depressed, not sad, I just don't really connect the way I should with emotions and life itself. Yet I don't hate life or being alive, I don't know how to explain it. I don't really show emotion towards birthdays, holidays, family members, I don't like to hug people (except my son and boyfriend) I don't like saying I love you to my parents, I cant. I guess it makes me sound cold. I still interact with my mother but not very close.

@bennysmom yeah like my mom has gotten arrested for being belligerently drunk and even got my step dad arrested! On my god damn birthday. That's why I dont care about my birthday anymore.i had to sit in court and post bond for my step dad. He didn't even lay a hand on her he was trying to get her out if the house and my sister told the cops he was beating her. My sister is a little cunt like my mom. My step dad is 63 with an actual heart condition, and he hates fighting, needs to take medication, and loves his dogs. I was so sad. Then they even made him swear an ankle bracelet for,72 hours and he had to stay with me. It's funny how they don't realise the damage they cause. Even with my boyfriend's family , even though they are normal I guess, I just don't really understand what family is and really don't know how to interact or talk to anyone because, I just don't know what I like to do...like I just exist. I like edgy memes and video games lol it's hard for me to get along with anyone or find something in common with people Really. So my life just revolves around my son because I love him.

I know this is random, I don't know why I'm talking about it haha, I just honestly share anything freely I guess , I don't really care about judgement it just is what it is

@bluepenguin, don’t feel bad if you want to cut her out of your life

@db413 too bad she lives goo close to me and that my boyfriend works with my step dad so it doesn't really work, I did block her out for a good month tho haha

@bennysmom yeah maybe that's why I'm having kids young, because all I want in life is a family

@bluepenguin, if you really feel like she’s toxic for your life and your children then don’t be afraid to cut ties. Or cut back on speaking with her. It’s possible to cut your relationship with her and still be civil with her. Do what’s best for your family