So my step daughter(12) has a weight problem... and she had a doctors appointment today. And…
So my step daughter(12) has a weight problem... and she had a doctors appointment today. And ofcourse was told shes obese..everytime anyone brings anything up to her she cries and runs to her room and being step mom it's kind of hard to get her under control since if she wants to hate me she could ): I make healthy home made meals I get healthy snacks and drink and the issue isnt that she wont eat healthy but she doesnt eat healthy portions.. if shes not full at dinner or even 20 minutes after dinner she'll go to my FIL house (hes close) to eat and tell him she hasnt eaten yet.. or shell eat dinner and make ramen noodles or make eggs or the likes, shes called her mother before saying she hasnt eaten for her to drop off food to her.. idk what I can do as step mom since whenever I bring it up she wont talk to me anymore and she runs away no matter how I approach it.. but it's just incredibly unhealthy and I dont want to see her health decline early because her self control is at a zero.. anyone have any tips? I tried to get her on a meal plan, I had her write down what she ate in a day so maybe she can see how much she does.. she met with a (I'm having such a brain fart) but the people who help you understand food and what's in it what's healthy like a dietitian? I had her join sports in school this year (and thankfully she ended up loving them) Shes upset about her weight but everything goes over her head and she does the same thing.. and ofcourse I take her to the appointments and I'm the one getting yelled at when I feel so helpless.. shes 50 pounds over weight.. 4'10 and 145.. shes suppose to be around the lines of 4'10 and 90 pounds.. she weighs more than me and I'm 9 months pregnant... I just have no idea what I can do to help her health.. I get so upset when the doctors talk to me about issues shes going to face later.. I think her father and mother can take her to the rest of her appointments.. let them hear it because when I say anything to my hubs hes like surprised shes that over weight and that health concerns later are a thing? Like if she keeps eating like she does shes not going to "grow into her weight" (which is what her mother tells her) ugh.. just getting yelled at by the doctors make me feel so bad even though I know I tried everything I could I just feel like a failure 😓
Jelly·
Talk to the people she’s getting to give her more food. Explain to them what’s going on so you are all in the same page
Yo mama·
I would definitely have dad go to the appointments. Everyone (mom included) needs to be on the same page as far as her weight is concerned. It’s not about “growing into her weight” is definitely about being healthy. She can “hate you” all she wants but it seems like you’re the only one with her health in mind. I don’t have any advice as you have already done what I would recommend (Dietitian and sports)
Monique Murehead·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
I would have Dad or Mom go so they can hear it as well if they can't go I would have you have the doctor write it on paper with his number also talk to them and tell them that she has ate and that's where she gets extra food is them and lying to them everyone needs to talk and be on the same page.
Kendra·
@jellybeans33 I have): her mother wont listen to me if I gave her a billion dollars to, I really wish we had a civil relationship for the kids:/ and my FIL just ignores it! He'll say "oh that kid needs to lose weight" call and ask if she ate then still feed her a second dinner! I caught him doing it multiple times and I just feel like I'm the only one who cares and I'm afraid shes going to hate me since I'm the only one showing any interest in her health:/
Jelly·
@kendrav, ugh that’s super frustrating then! Everyone should have her best interest in mind. 😫