If you are planning on raising a baby dependent on welfare, you should rethink that. Government assistance is great for the people who truly need the help.
Its not for people who are bored & want a new baby even though they have a 10 month old 🤦🏻‍♀️
That combined with the fact you want to have a baby with someone you’ve dated for 10 months, thinking it’ll bring you closer together, shows how much you should not have another baby right now

@candixox being bored isn't really a good reason to create a new life, especially if you're not financially stable at this point in time.

There's plenty of time for you to have another baby when you and your boyfriend are both ready.

@candixox but if he says that its not a good time to have a baby because you're not financially stable. .... then that means you BOTH arent ready... because he wants to wait.

What do you mean by you’re so used to having twins? Or siblings to associate with him?

This post confuzzles me.

2 under 2 isn’t easy. Please think this through. It put a lot of strain on a relationship especially a newish one.

@masseymomma16 yes hes home

You don’t have custody of your 10 month old????? You said 3 months ago you “get visits” with him! Yet you’re wanting to have another?!?Wow. 🤦🏻‍♀️

If you can’t afford a baby you shouldn’t be having one. He sounds fairly smart!

OP, u are all over the place girl. That’s why I’m asking bc I can’t even take you serious

@queenmeeks, I saw that too.

@ari. Yes baring thru the comments lol

I worked at a daycare too. It’s not even close to the same thing. Going from 1 kid to 2 was difficult for me. Some days it’s still difficult. It’ll be easier if you have a strong relationship, not one you’re trying to strengthen by adding a baby.

@lizology27_bb yes

Its only a matter of time before I get another job I just stopped working temporarily and im back government will not be permanently for me

@xxoceanbabexx I used to work at a daycare and don't associate it with being hard i love kids

Is this thread for real though? Like for real for real?

No he is at home now thank God

@candixox, are you currently without custody of your 10 month old? Reading through a previous post, you said you’re dealing with DHR and having to take parenting classes?

@candixox
This is a terrible idea. What if he's not who you think he is? What if you get pregnant and he dips out? Babies put huge strains on even long term marriages. What if you have a kid and he changes his mind about marriage? Welfare isn't there to deliberately have babies they cant afford.

Hmm I may rethink that but I'm so used to having twins so I know that he wants siblings to associate with him while its just me and him.
It just seems so easy having just one baby and to tell the truth I'm not on welfare right now.

Get a hobby. Heck, try building a piece of furniture together. That will show you how well working together will go 😂

@candixox, You’ve lost your mind. You need a serious reality check girl.

If you are planning on raising a baby dependent on welfare, you should rethink that. Government assistance is great for the people who truly need the help.
Its not for people who are bored & want a new baby even though they have a 10 month old 🤦🏻‍♀️
That combined with the fact you want to have a baby with someone you’ve dated for 10 months, thinking it’ll bring you closer together, shows how much you should not have another baby right now

The question was can i get financial assistance without having to pay it back? Why is everyone so defensive

What the heck 😑

@candixox, y’all have been together for 10 months and you want a baby because you are guessing it will bring y’all closer and bring on marriage? I’m trying to make sure I’m understanding all the parts here.

@cams yeah i know

@xxoceanbabexx we've been together for 10months

@laywatz we are ready I'm getting a new job and I got a lot of time on my hands plus family support we've been wanting one for some time now and I think it may even bring us closer we both want marriage

@candixox, you want a new baby because you want to meet someone new because it’s boring where you live? That’s not at all a good reason to have a baby. Your son is 10 months old, there is plenty of time to bond with him! You shouldn’t be content relying on welfare to help you raise your children, you should want better than that.

If you’re bored where you are, you and your boyfriend should start talking about different areas to live in, be it a different city or a different state. Start looking for jobs and prepare yourself! Spend time with your babies and make memories with them, don’t create a new life out of sheer boredom.

Sounds like maybe you should focus on the baby you have now and worry about mingling later. First step would be to become financially independent.

@candixox being bored isn't really a good reason to create a new life, especially if you're not financially stable at this point in time.

There's plenty of time for you to have another baby when you and your boyfriend are both ready.

Only because I want the bonding experiences and I'm ready to meet someone new because its so boring where I stay and I'm ready to mingle

@candixox, how come ?

Yeah true but I didnt get to spend as much time with hin smh

But you have a baby.... 10 month old?

@leahkay, and @queenmeeks, said it best.

☝🏼What they said

I second what @leahkay said. Don’t go having a baby just because you want one, and especially because you know you aren’t financially stable enough to care for your children without welfare. Respect what he’s saying about not being financially ready and maybe revisit this in a year or two when you guys are better off.

No.. Unless you plan on lying about your financial situation because if they catch you they'll make you pay it all back and you can face jail time. 🤦But you shouldn't get it just so you can have a baby. Just wait until you're more financially secure so you don't put your self in a bind.