Sounds all fair ladies but the day he passed she walks in my house first asked me why I’m crying like what u mean why I’m crying so she turn around and say that’s from all that arguing like why u gotta be like that then just recently gonna tell me at least I had the dignity to let my husband pass like that like I’m not with nobody disrespectful games and now all of a sudden she wanna reach out to watch my son she don’t even help me with nothing at all stuff I have with him when he go over clothes and stuff she keeps she didn’t buy anything for him like there no help and it’s like I’m a peaceful person I will protect my kids off top

If she’s being disrespectful and all that then yeah maybe not let him be around that but it sounds like it’s just still fresh emotions...she misses her son and when things like this happen people tend to put blame on someone else even when it wasn’t their fault or there was just nothing anyone could do about it...my grandpa died from a severe heart attack and we live right downstairs from him..we all wondered what if and blamed OURSELVES. So it really sounds like she just needs time to heal still. But again if she’s just being disrespectful and rude and it never changed then yeah I wouldn’t...

That being said though, you’re the only one who knows the full situation and you’re the mother.

This is tough. Cause now that her son is gone, this is the only piece of him she has left. I couldn’t imagine how heartbreaking that is.
I would try to put your feelings aside for your son, but if she starts disrespecting you in front of or to him, I’d definitely not hesitate in not letting her see him.