When you guys started trying for a baby how did you know that the father of your children was the…

Honestly I didn’t know. What I did know is that I spent 5 years of my life with a guy I KNEW I DIDNT want children with. And we weren’t trying for any children. But if I were absolutely against having a child with the man I’m with now I would have been more careful.

Because I knew he cared about me. Really care, he’d put me above himself. He care what happened to me. I knew that I wanted to spend my life with him.

@db413 I've been married over 7 years and we were trying for a baby last year but after 2 miscarriages i decided against it. After going through a lot I've grown and matured since then and even though I've thought about trying again, i haven't been able to bring myself to talk to him about it.

I wouldn’t have married a man i didn’t see myself raising kids with. I told my husband from the beginning I wanted kids and I told him if he didn’t want that then j didn’t want him to waste my time. We dated for 2 1/2 years then we got married and on Sunday it’ll be out 2 year wedding anniversary and we are now bringing our first child into this world together. I will also add I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t think he would love me and take care of me (not financially).

I was 35 when I got pregnant and said God knows what he is doing

It all depend on urs elf I knew I was going to raise my daughter alone so when he came around to hang with her he caught me on a good night and I’m pregnant again... considering getting my tubes tied after this tho

You just know .... different reasons

Different people ... do what u feel

Is best at the end of the day u are going to be responsible for this life no one else is

Oh and I wasn’t trying lol

We’d been to hell and back, and had seen all the ugly sides of each other and still wanted to be together. It was always on the table and knowing he was willing to do anything for his siblings (before we met he was sending 80% of his check home for them)I could only imagine how he would be with our future children. Plus for him it was something he always wanted but I was the one who wasn’t ready until I was 🤷🏻‍♀️ he always had and still does want better for his daughter and he’s accomplishing it, to me that’s has more weight than anything, talk is cheap.

@wvgirl, do you feel your husband won’t be a good father? Are you afraid of how your relationship will change after a baby? There’s a reason you can’t bring yourself to talk to him about it.

@db413 honestly both of those reason's

@wvgirl, I know it will be hard. And yes relationships change with a baby. But you guys have been together a long time. So you have to decide to move on or work past it. I personally think you should talk to him about your concerns of a changing relationship.