I need some advice. I dont want to sound horrible by saying this.. we have an 11 month old daughter,…
I need some advice. I dont want to sound horrible by saying this.. we have an 11 month old daughter, and im currently 23 weeks pregnant with our other daughter. Before i got pregnant, i for sure knew i wanted another baby. We wanted our children to grow up close together. Now that im pregnant, i am constantly thinking about the changes coming. Not getting the one on one time with my oldest anymore. I feel like im abandoning her when the new baby gets here. Im worried i wont love the second baby as much as our oldest. Of course i feel guilty for feeling like this, i just cant seem to shake the feeling.
Nunya Business·
Try not to worry too much. You will find a way. The newborn will sleep often to start, and you can get one on one time with your oldest then. You could make sure that there is something you do everyday with them that's just for you two. I like doing the bedtime routine with DD1. We get to cuddle and sing our songs just the two of us. We do other things throughout the day, but bedtime seems more special now.
You will be able to bond with the youngest when they are awake because they will so fully need you and your attention. I bond a lot with DD2 overnight when everyone else is asleep lol.
One thing we do to foster the love between our girls is refer to the baby as "our baby"/"our family's baby" to DD1. The baby belongs to our family, not just mom and dad. She feels protective of the baby and wants to help take care of her. She gets rough sometimes when she's excited, but she's gently corrected and well supervised when around the baby. It's good you're thinking about these things now, but it will ultimately work out. Best of luck to you.
Hibben ·
It completely normal to feel that way. Try not to worry. Take each day at a time . It’ll all work out.
Alyssa·
Feeling the way you are is completely normal. I felt that way as well. After your second gets here, it will be tough at first but you’ll find your balance and it’ll all be just fine.
ashland kelly·
Мама дочки-младенца, беременна (26 нед.)
Thank you girls. Makes me feel a bit better about everything💗