Soo my boyfriend's father brought up marriage to me and was stuttering bad... he thinks we should…

I u derstand that feeling

@elijahsmom I literally sat at the table with nothing to say cause I was overthinking

@teresha_h yeah all my family want me and my fiance to get married but wete like we are when we want . I dont like when people pressure other into doing things

@elijahsmom Exactly! Plus his dad isnt even married

@teresha_h well then he really cant talk . Half my family is married the other isnt

Having a child shouldn’t be a reason to get married. You and your boyfriend should both want to get married because you want to spend the rest of your life together, because you can’t see your life without them in it not because you share a child. Besides your boyfriends dad shouldn’t be the one bringing up the getting married conversation your boyfriend or yourself should be the ones talking about that not anyone else.

@raqueliiosiis Exactly! THANK YOU im still lost like why would someone even think that

@raqueliiosiis He said it'll secure my daughters future lol wtf

@teresha_h, a lot of people think that you need to get married because you have kids together. Honestly when my husband and I moved in together (before we got married) we kept getting told to get married because blah blah blah but we knew that we wanted to get to know each other better before kids and learn to just be alone with each other (because let’s be real once your kids are grown all that’s left is you and him). We got so much shit for it that once we finally got married we literally didn’t invite anyone from his family just mine. I think that you and him should do things on your own terms and ignore what anyone else says, because at the end of it all it’ll just be you and him not his mom/dad/grandma/uncle/pet fish lol. How would it even secure her future? If his son is a man married or not he’ll make sure his daughter is taken care of.

Dont mind what others say. Definitely address the situation with your boyfriend to not feel pressured from his dad to marry you just because you have a kid. I completely agree with @raqueliiosiis, to wait until you both are ready. For him to propose to you because he cannot spend the rest of his life without you. I have been with my SO for 12 years now engaged for 5, going on 6 years. We know we are going to be spending the rest of our lives together but honestly we still want to work on some things first before saying “ I Do “. People always suggest to just go to court. As if we don’t know our options. It is very annoying.

I totally understand where you’re coming from. I can relate. My bf’s dad would pressure him to marry me. (When I was still pregnant) he would be like, you have to propose before the holiday. He would come to our condo randomly and just ask how we’ve been but I knew it was to see if he had done it already.... I had to talk to my bf that I didn’t want him to propose unless he was sincere and REALLY wanted to.. I’m fine with the way things are now, our child has both parents in her life, they’re happy together and that’s all that matters.. 💜I would suggest just talking to your BF! Take your time guys, if you love each other... all else doesn’t matter!

@raqueliiosiis @rndmshtt @cinvelasquez THANK YOU . He brought it up to him today im sure and then after they talked he came in and was talking about he wants to secure our daughters future and he want to set up something for her and her cousin in the future and all this "breaking the cycle" etc