Had one very stressed daddy last night 😟 baby wouldn't settle for him I woke up at one and settled…

They can Hun Liam was exactly the same and still is sometimes, I tend to give Finley one of my tshirts when Liam has him if he doesn’t settle because it’s got my scent on and that seems to work, skin to skin is a good way to bond too😘 xx

@lovemyboys8 I think I remember you posting about chris I was kinda hoping you would comment, he then feels bad because he had to wake me and he wants me to sleep as much as I can but so hard to explain that I get a second wind and get on with it, if I'm tired I can sleep when baby sleeps which he doesn't like doing atm. I just feel so sorry for them. He keeps asking me if I'm okay and if I regret anything because I'm tired 🤔 you can imagine my answer! I just told him to get some sleep we'll be fine and that I love him loads. Hopefully he feels better when he wakes up, do you think they feel somewhat left out because alot of our time is on baby and we have both said we hate that we don't get our time as such... I dunno. I just need him to feel confident. 😟 exactly maybe he just wanted mommy. But then I feel bad for coming in and settling him when he's been trying all night 😲 xxxx

@toni_mcentee yeah he does alot of skin to skin with him tbf. Probably more than me I think because last night he probably just wanted me that wasn't working and it really upset him he fed him, changed him, burped him tried to give him cuddles and he said he couldn't understand why he was still crying! Until I came in... 😑 xxx

Babies go through a mummy or no one stage or well I say stage Danny’s was from about a month after birth until he was like 9 months lol, it was my oh that could settle Danny in the early days and I couldn’t, the wee one is just testing the waters lol, it honestly won’t be long until all he wants is his daddy xx

@lovemyboys8 gosh, you guys are amazing. I know it will get easier. I think you and oh form such a bond after having a baby. I look at him so differently now. Then I look at his mini me! Noah looks so much like him I love it. ❤ that's a lovely idea I wish we could do that but atm it's all baby he's only 6 days old which I think we forget sometimes. I'm not hun, I was on alot of medication towards the end of my pregnancy and I felt bad breast feeding! Plus my milk didn't come in till 3 days after he was born. I want to express the good stuff and just give him that but then I'm stimulated so. I didn't bother. Xxx

@whiteford.lisa05 I know I just hate how he feels, babies are clever aren't they he definitely knows what cry to use to pull moms heart strings!!! 😂 xxx

@nicolemariehooperxo, oh I know but everything your doing is the right thing, follow by his lead and my biggest mistake was just taking Danny off my oh and doing it because it didn’t take me as long and then I tried to force it and Danny was having none of it and that my oh feel worse and oh definitely they pick up on everything and then play on it xxx

@whiteford.lisa05 I give my oh chance to settle him then if he starts to get upset I'll take noah. Thing is it could of been a one off night!!! First time it's happened this bad. Yeah true. He probably knew what he was doing, he was crying a certain way and as soon as I held him and bounced around abit he settled. 🤔 crafty baby. xxx

@nicolemariehooperxo, I would get used to that my wee one still does it but now it’s as soon as he’s lifted from his cot the tears stop lol, yeah more than likely, there’s soooo many growth spurts in the early days and they do get really fussy for mummy, Noah is all you know so your heartbeat and smell is what he’s needing to feel safe and secure xxx

Its not true that mothers and babies have more of a bond...dads can get the same bond too...as yes...dads can get baby blues and postnatal depression xxx

Sometimes Maya didnt settle for me...but did for my mum...I found it frustrating/abit upsetting :) I can promise you...the more he interacts with him...the more he will get use to him xxx

We always have to remember that we carried our babies. So they are used the beating of our hearts etc. My OH felt the same! And now she still does it. Some days she will only settle for me and some days she will only settle for my OH. Just constantly keep him involved and reassuring him and things will settle xxx

Babies do settle much better for mums in the early days, my partner had a really rough time during the first two weeks. He felt completely useless, he felt as though all he could do was cook food and clean up, I don't think he understood how helpful that actually was! He waited on me hand and foot while I sat and fed the baby. Lots of skin to skin helps, if you're breastfeeding, feed baby then hand him straight over to your partner for skin to skin. Bath time with dad, is always a good one. Let him change the nappies, have him play with baby while doing tummy time (never to early for tummy time). Theo will be one on Friday and he absolutely loves his daddy now! He goes running to the door when my partner comes home from work, wanting a cuddle and to play. I also let him do the bed time routine have done since we started at around 3 months. He did all the holding with the first bath. Just anything that wasn't feeding related I let him do, because he wanted to feel as though he was doing something and breastfeeding took up so much of our day that the time he was actually getting with Theo for the first 2 months felt like no time at all.

But I does get better, you just have to keep reassuring him and letting him know that they will have a fabulous bond in no time! X

Awwww ladies! Thank you for this! I dunno what I would do without you all!!! I'm glad we're not the only ones going through it (without sounding mean). I just gave my oh lots of cuddles and kisses whilst Noah is settled. First time we've lay in bed for a cuddle for ages. Made sure he had some lovings and that he was okay. Think he feels better this morning I've left him to get some more sleep as I've had such a good morning with Noah I'm feeling generous and I'm full of beans!!! 😀😀😀😀😀 love you all! ❤

Yes my DH felt like this with our first. I was devestated so we just made sure he did lots of skin to skin, bath time, cuddles after feeds etc... it definatley helped x