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@raerae2018 my SO cut someone out of his life because the guy was awful to him. Blamed him for all his life decisions, every other time SO tired to cut him off he would come a couple days later saying there's a lot going on. It's been going this way for years. Today my SO called him because someone else he know texted him saying the guy wanted my fiance to call him... He did. Apparently everything has been a big misunderstanding. Now let me give you an example, we had a miscarriage last year and when this guy found out we were having a baby his response after they had a fight was, "have a happy miscarriage". But guess what my SO wants to do and was straight fighting me on today, he wants this asshole to move in with us. He wants him to come up from Tucson to Spokane and move in with us. This guy has said he doesn't like me, it's going to be hell just for that for him to be here. I told my SO I don't want him involved with our daughter and he said that wouldn't happen, but when he said he didn't want a bunch of people I know to be involved I respected that. SO says the guy's problem is he has anger issues. That I can hold this judgment and have that opinion because I don't know him, I just know his disability and I'm judging him for it. I told him another issue I have is I want OUR family to be able to be just us. We fought so hard to be here, we are just about to get married, just about to have a baby in November. This plan he made would be carried out the beginning of next year. He yelled saying, "okay. Whatever. Fine." He went into our room chucked my pillows and medications out the door and locked himself in. He has anger issues and he's throwing a fit and I'm stressing and freaking out.

You are completely within your rights to feel that way.. This man sounds like a absolute crazy person and I wouldn't want him around me or my child either especially after saying what he said about your sweet babys passing, if you've made the sacrifice and cut people off for your partners sake then he should have the respect to do the same for you more so now given the fact that you are pregnant and this man is so clearly a flight risk.. If he wants to throw a fit about it then that's on him but you are being responsible in not wanting his friend near you or your child.. And if you are in any danger there with him being in a shitty mood then I would either call the police and have him removed from your home or go and stay somewhere for the night so you are out of harms way you don't need the stress at all and he should be trying to make you feel comfortable and safe not scared.. You are doing everything you should be doing for your daughter if he's not willing to make the same choices for her then he's not putting her needs first and that's never a good sign

@raerae2018 I tried telling my fiance I don't think it's going to just change all of a sudden.. I don't know how I'm going to get through to him and that is what scares me more than anything. I am going to make the decision best for my baby, whatever that takes. I know he loves us but he is not thinking clearly and if he can't figure this out, the decisions I may have to make are going to be hard. I'm not worried about my SO doing anything to me, he's just going to lock himself away. He won't hurt me. I know he doesn't want her in a bad situation but I know he is not thinking this all the way through.

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Are you ok?

@rainbowmommytosophia1719 tbh, I'm not sure right now.

@alice-quinnsmommy, Message me mama. You can always vent to me and I’m always here for a listening ear.