I JUST FEEL SO BAD . Me and daughter father knew each other since we was kids and now we share a 1…

Coparenting can be great! As for relationships, if its not enhancing your life its gotta go!

I feel for u im going through the same and i feel overwhelmed and just tired

@kambam, I feel like with his background and everything he got going on if I was to say let’s just be friends and co parent which means he would have to find somewhere else to stay because he lives here and never had his own place his parents don’t want them with him because he’s almost 30 . He’ll be out in the streets and will be pissed with me and I don’t think he’ll be half the parent he could be if at all !! And that’s not fair to my babies

@j.family1215, yea overwhelmed is exactly the feeling . I’m trying so hard to keep this together but the more I try the more I just don’t want to even though I don’t want to see him out here struggling . All I know is that I can’t keep pretending and arguing

Maybe y'all can make a plan to help get him a separate place or you a separate place? But after that its gotta be all him. You cant fear him failing, that's not your job. He should be motivated either way.

I can definitely relate to what you're going through and have the same fears. @kambam, I need to take your advice as well because you are absolutely right!

@kambam, I’m not going anywhere this is my place I moved in here a lil after my son dad passed away when I as 22 I’m now 27 . He just lives here because where else would he go . I would like to help him get his own but he gets money and blows it on himself not only that but I think he starting to use drugs again . It’s just so much going on that I’m just tired of . Everyone keeps telling me it’s not my job to worry about him failing but I feel like if he fails what about my kids ?? My oldest son father died when he was 4 that was the most heart breaking experience of our life and we still trying to recover from his dad so now if my daughters father just up and leave them ... it’s just not fair all I want is happiness and stability for my children

@jassj, it really sucks cause I don’t care about me or us all I care is my kids to have both parents my oldest son father passed away when he was 4 and you have no idea how bad that still hurts . I just really don’t want my girls father to disappear my baby is 1 she clearly knows her dad and I don’t want that bond to break and I deff don’t want my unborn to not have a chance . It just really sucks when grown people can’t be grown ups not even for the kids they willing made

Im just saying you cant fix him! If you enable him for everything he'll never grow. You don't have to leave your place either I just wasnt sure the arrangement. Speaking from experience too. And if he's getting into drugs thats a whole other thing 🙁🙁

@kambam, yea it is I just want to throw him in the trash at this point smh .

Hahah the trash. Poor guy. Nah but somethings gotta give ya know. I hope it works out for y'all. Been there 😞

Have u talked to him

@lawsondeaja, all we do is talk about the same thing over and over and over . He just got a job 2 weeks ago and lost it last week stealing a phone from an office , like why ?? Than get mad when I say he’s unreliable and I have to do everything myself even though he’s here . He get food stamps instead of making sure home was good before hand I just found out that he sold them . I talked to him JUST NOW about coming in at an respectable hr which not after midnight for the simple fact that I get up early with the kids . And I don’t like to break the little sleep I do get cause it’s hard for me to sleep at this point . And he loses everything you give him so I don’t trust him with a key . So what he did was pack him up some stuff and said he can’t say that he’ll be back by 11/12 so he’ll just sleep outside somewhere since I’m being petty about the time and left

Hello u sick of that shit he needs to grow up

@lawsondeaja, big time like I’m just ready to just throw him in the trash at this point . I can’t help you if you don’t want to help yourself .

He full of crap ur pregnant u shoudnt stress

I hate to give an opinion on something that has nothing to do with me especially to someone I don't know of personally but I experienced a session like this in my life as well at some point you have to develop healthy barriers on how you're going to treated and remember that you're responsible for your experiences no one else is let me share a few things that help me during my session

I hope these helps 💪💜

@mytwo_heartbeats, thanks hun !! I’m open for anyone opinions that’s why I made the stat. We are all woman and all mothers and soon to be we may come from different areas and walks of life but at some point we all been through similar as well as the same so why not try and help each other on situations that you as well been through or going through is how I see it .

@prestonjeanetta0120 AMEN! You only need your on validations though...you know what it takes to and how to pray through the process so pray for me as i pray for you love !💪💪💪💪💞