If you and your husband/so fight about something stupid, who apologizes first. I know I was wrong…

it all depends what we fight about . if he takes his stress out on the girls and i then i put the girls in the car and take off for several hours until hes calmed down and he will msg my telling me how sorry he is

You guys seem to have constant fighting.

But to answer your question, it’s whoever was in the wrong. Our relationship isn’t about power. It’s about working it out together and discussing our arguments after we’ve calmed down.

@messybunmom

We don't fight constantly but I do post about it if I'm feeling like I may be in the wrong. Things have been rough so I come here for support and feedback and to vent.

Thanks for the advice. I decided to just apologize and move on.

@messybunmom

Do you argue or fight with your s/o or not really?

We are somewhat unconventional but I think we’ve had a real true fight like, twice in our entire relationship and it was over stuff that was really really serious. I think that first off stupid stuff can be dropped or discussed in a calm manner. If you can’t come to an agreement, come back to it at a later time. If you know it’s a stupid argument why get all riled up about it yknow?

Generally we don’t say sorry if it’s about our feelings- I don’t ever think either of us need to be sorry for feeling what we feel.

But if one of us is a total jackass, that person apologizes first. Whoever was rude or raised their voice first apologizes first.

@hpsutton

Thank you. I definitely crossed the line first. Thanks you for the genuine comment. Especially the part about who raised their voice or acted rude first.

I wasn’t saying that to make you feel bad or anything. It’s just something I’ve noticed.

@mhbb3,

We do argue but it’s rare. We bicker and that’s been going on for the past few hours lol. We just aren’t meshing well this evening. 😩 and he’s really annoying me. Lol.

@messybunmom

I know you weren't. It just struck a cord bc we do argue quite a bit.

@mhbb3, of course! We don’t really fight much but we are both VERY.... hmm, sassy..? People. We catch attitude and we catch it quick. If he does it first I’ll tell him to lose the attitude and he apologizes, and vice versa.

We also both grew up in homes that were 24/7 very very bad fighting that was scary, especially as young kids. We made a decision long before we were married to never have that in our home because we didn’t have to. Sometimes it can be good to sit down and have a talk about how you want to handle future arguments if you feel that things aren’t working well or that issues aren’t getting resolved.