Maybe im overreacting but my son is 18 months old and my hubby has a son from a previous relationship and he is 6 years…

Whoa whoa whoa. Slow down there. Hitting her step child? That is not good advice.

The bed needs to be returned. Not because it matches the baby’s but because it’s not financially responsible to buy a 6 year old a bed he’s going to grow out of super quick. It’s a waste of money.

As for discipline, that should mainly fall on your husbands shoulders. Have a talk with him and let him know how you feel.

If some "stepmom" dared hit my kid, she'd probably have the rest of her meals through a feeding tube. That's terrible advice. Your husband needs to be the one to resolve the issue

@aileenlovee I'm sorry that sounds extremely difficult. I was a preschool teacher so I know all about difficult children that don't act their age. Have you tried praising him when he's doing something nice or something he should be doing? Some kids act out just to get attention. So maybe by pointing out good things he'll start to do them more? Does he get much attention when he's at his mom's?

@xxoceanbabexx ive tried confronting her and talking to her and she walked away like she didnt hear me and drove off . then texted my husband calling me a bitch and all this shit. Shes the one that wont talk not me. And i got it off of offer up 💁

@xxoceanbabexx i know 😭 but she's just as bad as the kid she hates me for no reason she'd never dare come face to face with me . she flipped out when i went to open house before school started because she expected only him and there son to be there yet her new man was there but im not allowed ?

@cams. Unfortunately no :( or else i would have. Me and hubby get along so good and things are so peaceful until step son gets here and were both annoyed and just argue a day and its just crazy here until bed time . its sad that i notice it but what can i do when im limited

@aileenlovee, place him in the room then and say he isn’t allowed out until he behaves. But keep saying “what you are doing is not ok, your behavior is not acceptable” and send him to the room, if he’s gotta spend the entire time in the room then oh well, he made those decisions. And if the hubby says it’s not right for him to spend so much time in the room, then say it’s not right for his actions towards the baby

@aileenlovee, do you have somewhere to go for a bit? I mean, you shouldn’t have to leave your home but he’s just not getting it. Sounds like he needs a reality check.

@roses702 it is im so over it i just want to leave . its been like this for 3 years. Even before my baby came a long. Now imagine my second one here

That sounds stressful ah... But I agree @cams you guys need to be a team and respect both of you guys....

He's the child...

@mommakuala girl he doesn't care hell see it as my sons not the one allowed to play and have a kick out of it . i shouldn't have to put my baby away because a older kid can't act right he should be the one in his room.

@lostmyveecard exactly how i feel too ! Fuck that . i wouldn't ever hit a kid thats not mine

@aileenlovee, then pull yourself and the baby away from the son (if your hubby is there) have you and the baby relax in the room while the older one is alone. And if someone makes a comment (either hubby or 6 yr old) just say that it’s not ok for the baby to get hurt and if nothing is going to be done about it, then you’ll make sure nothing happens to the little one. Make sure you tell the 6 yr old that it’s not ok for him to treat his brother that way and that’s why he’s no longer able to play with him, if his attitude changes, then he can play with his little brother. But I honestly think your hubby needs to step it up and get the 6 yr old to start acting like a 6 yr old.

If some "stepmom" dared hit my kid, she'd probably have the rest of her meals through a feeding tube. That's terrible advice. Your husband needs to be the one to resolve the issue

@cams and sometimes we fight because my baby wont stop jumping around or being loud so he'll try to discipline him and ive lost my shit because who tf disciplines a baby and not the big kid ! Not physically but just uuugh little slaps on his hand when he should be smacking his older sons hand for taking my baby's shit !

@mommakuala ive done all of this ! 😖 im ready to just give up honestly you dont even know . its ridiculous and i feel myself starting to not look forward when its Wednesday and i know he'll be coming over . Even though of course i dont show it but thats how i feel on the inside

@aileenlovee, ughhhh. That would be a red flag for me. If he’s not willing to discipline the older one, how will it be with the other 2? You guys need to be on a united front.

By that age, he totally understands what he’s doing. If he’s being bratty to your 1 year old, pull your 1 yr old away from him and tell him ‘he doesn’t have to play with you if you’re going to be mean to him’ or ‘you aren’t behaving good, so you stay here while the baby plays somewhere else’ cause at the same time, you don’t want your 1yr old to grow up thinking it’s ok to be treated that way. And if he’s throwing a fit in the store or somewhere, grab the little one and tell your hubby that he’s gotta deal with him while you walk a different direction. And if you can, try to have a civil conversation with the hubby. Don’t let anger get the best of you, speak to him when the kids are asleep so there’s no distractions. And tell him that you really don’t like how he’s acting as the ‘older’ brother. And it’s not ok for your 1 yr old to think it’s ok to be pinched or have his own toys be taken away from him because eventually, your little one will grow up to resent his older brother if that continues. And tell him that he needs to put his foot down as the father and tell his son it’s not ok to be calling you a liar and he still needs to respect you.

@cams i would never hit him . And yes we had agreed on it and he goes and does this so it automatically upset me ! Thats my exact point we dont have room for two in there so its just crowded now. I have talked about multiple things regarding his son and in the last 3 years even before we had a baby and it was just him . But he was younger and i had more understanding. Now its just gotten worse because hes older and it just looks bad. Im honestly ready to just give up 😖

Whoa whoa whoa. Slow down there. Hitting her step child? That is not good advice.

The bed needs to be returned. Not because it matches the baby’s but because it’s not financially responsible to buy a 6 year old a bed he’s going to grow out of super quick. It’s a waste of money.

As for discipline, that should mainly fall on your husbands shoulders. Have a talk with him and let him know how you feel.

Shes nothing but pure drama and makes a bunch of shit up like she knows what goes on in my household .

@xxoceanbabexx his moms very bitter and acts out like this too ! Shes pointless to speak with . ive tried being on good terms and she denies. Ive never done anything wrong the moment she found out i was pregnant with our first she put my husband on child support. I believe she tells him to act like this

My son honestly acts way more mature on multiple things and its embarrassing when we go out and its the big one acting like a baby not eating , constantly crying and making scenes . while my son just sort of hangs out but im scared he'll start picking up bad habbits and act like him !

I do ! Except i donthit to avoid drama with his mom. And he even has the nerve to say I'm lying when i tell his dad and his dad just keeps quiet and well tell him to listen or something stupid ! @marielovely

That’s is so out of hand .. I would definitely yell at that little boy or even hit him, your his stepmom and he stays with you too so u shud have the right to discipline him for intentionally hurting the baby idc what husband said that is definitely not okay!

Picture of my baby Sleeping in his own bed 💙