Rant coming on.... I let my oldest go to the store with my mother and sister. I told them before…
Rant coming on....
I let my oldest go to the store with my mother and sister. I told them before they left not to get Vincent anything to eat cause I was already cooking dinner. They told him to keep a secret about going to Mc Donald's and getting a happy meal. He comes home I see they toy and I hear something in his pockets and made him turn them inside out. He still had his apple slices. I am very anger first of all I tell my kids no secrets between us and my family knows that I tell my kids that and they wanted him to do the opposite. Nope sorry but I will crack down on my son and on y'all. I told my mom not to let my kids break any rules or anything I tell them and she tried to play innocent like nope not happening. Maybe I am going overboard but I made dinner and they bought him fast food.
Alison·
They aren't sending him a good message by telling him to lie to you. If he heard you tell them not to get anything to eat they are also showing him that your rules aren't important. In that case I'd be upset about it too. If he didn't hear you say that I'd be a bit peeved but whatever. While they probably had no ill intent, they aren't thinking of the bigger picture.
Victoria·
@oh.hi no I personally told my son in front of both them that he can't get anything because I am making dinner and it will be done when y'all get back. Than I told my sister and mother not to get him anything. This wasn't the first time this happened it's the 3rd now my son is starting to lie which I was hoping he would not lie to me. I am beyond upset because they just told me I am over reacting my sister doesn't have kids but my mother had both of us and I would think she would understand where I am coming from but not really.
Alison·
Its not okay to tell your son to lie to you no matter how insignificant they think that lie is. You aren't over reacting. Maybe he doesn't go to the store with them around meal time anymore if it's something they'll just keep doing.
Victoria·
@oh.hi thank you because they both made me feel a little bad. I even sat down with my son to have to explain that isn't not okay to keep secrets and not good to lie. I even explain if he started lying it's hard to tell if he tells the truth to.
LEO Wifey·
Wow. Just wow. I'd be absolutely furious. They disrespected you both by ignoring your rules as his mother AND by encouraging him to lie to you. The latter could infuriate me. And if that's not the first time, then just effing no. They wouldn't be talking my kid anywhere without me anymore. They've proven themselves untrustworthy.
I wouldn't necessarily be upset with my son, because he's being told conflicting things by adults he's supposed to respect and listen to. But I also don't have a 7yo yet, so I don't have experience parenting at that age.
Kayleee Killgore·
Мама троих детей
She totally undermined you...not ok
Jenny Hyland·
Well she is grandma. All of these woman trying to make you fight with your mother or argue is not ok. I completely understand that you have rules and they should respect your wishes. Am sure they didn’t mean to hurt your feelings or make your son “lie to you”. You have to see it from where it comes from if all they did was spoil your son a bit maybe is not such a bad deal. He lives with you and all they wanted was to show him Some love.
Victoria·
@seanvna we all live together for right now. They spoil both my kids and my sister is always undermining my wishes and rules. My mom and I talked away from my sister since she does love to yell and argue. My mom said sorry for doing something that she didn't let us do when we were younger. So now we are on the same page but for my sister a 15 minute argument wasn't through me yelling.
Jenny Hyland·
@victoria-ashley, wow! That explains it. Yeah. You are right. Am sorry girlie.