That’s unexpectable ! I would say every check I need you to pay at least 120$. Say it is for food, gas, and every ogjed expense his friend is helping use up.

When you and uiud husband is in a good mood and talking a regular conversation, in a nice tone say ”hey, how long is your friend staying? Had he found anything yet? You won't believe the amazing places I found on zillow for him” Then ask the husband on a different day “Hey, do you think you guys can clean up a little bit around the time it’s time for me to come hone ? I’m doing extra work at work and that will help me out a lot “ by saying it that way you avoid mentioning the friend he will have no reason to flip .
Hope it helps .

@deeshaylove I know it's not always like this I seriously think he has major man periods cause we can go weeks being fine then he acts up or becomes an ass for a couple of days and he always apologizes for being an ass and it never gets fiscal I just let him complain and wait for him to shut up lol I just hope that once we have our house paid off it will help him relax

@tosha6, yes I’m not coming on your post to preach but it does make me a little sad. When the person you love change on you like that. Giving up for us woman is sometimes never an option but we also have to remember we are only human also and can only take so much. You can’t be the only one giving , giving to the relationship. Giving to the household needs giving to the situation. Who is giving to you? You need attention and love also, seems like only the video games is getting that. You have been together along time and it’s not easy to just let something go. Honestly though if you guys don’t get the time to talk to each other and consider different things you will stay unhappy.

@deeshaylove I know he does and it really hurts me he's changed so much I hate it I wish he actually loved me cause lately I don't feel like he does he says it but it don't feel like it I've been with him for half of my life I do love him I just wished he'd show me that he loves me I don't want to give up on us yet but I also don't know how much longer I can do this

@tosha6, it seems like he really just takes you for granted. Seems really disrespectful for you , I mean you do all you can for your family it’s certain things he should be mindful of. You could really wake up one day and loose your mind from the stress.

@deeshaylove I know I do and we've been married for 4 or 5 years I forgot lol but been together for 15 years next month

@tosha6, wow you have a lot on your plate. How long have you guys been married?

@deeshaylove he doesn't instead I get home last night and told oh well trash never got taken to the road so now u have to burn it like really and no one cares all the shit I have to do I have to go out and pick food out of the gardens and store them with really no help and my husband has the nerve to try and tell me how to can tomatoes he cleaned out the shed well more like through everything outside to get rained on for weeks now that he can clean up

You are a sweetheart, this situation is only putting stress on you. You guys have a big family and really don’t have the space for anyone else that can’t take care of responsibility. I have this problem when it comes to helping my family not being able to just say NO . It’s really your husbands job to step up and tell him he needs to get his priorities straight not yours. Try to talk to him about your stress level and see where that gets you. He should understand that.

@roses702 whenever that maybe he was disappointed the other day when I bought noodles but I didn't buy the kind he likes lol even though their only .18 cent

@tosha6 time to put your foot down, and when he gets money again say he you live here too time to pitch in

@roses702 I wish I could he's a cheap ass he's stayed with us before and his rent was supposed to be taking care of the animals but he got to the point where he thought we needed to pay him to do it

Start charging rent

@lpheartsyou to help me get through until next payday some people just can't get their priorities straight

@lpheartsyou my husband is self employed well kinda my schedule has been crazy the last couple of weeks thankfully I don't have to pay for water gas or sewage I live in the country but he just sits around all day playing on his phone that his mom put time on and his mom also paid his car payment which was his 1st payment but that's also stuck sitting in my yard cause he was to stupid and decided to blow the money he had so now his car doesn't have plates or insurance I got paid yesterday I paid my phone bill and been trying to finish school shopping plus a few groceries and gas and I still have a few dollars left