I don't think it's worth leaving him over... it's only church. Why can't you go with?

I don’t think it’s worth leaving your husband over. He shouldn’t be going to any event and not sharing that with you but is it possible he’s afraid to approach you about going since you both decided leaving was best? Maybe he really does love it there but is afraid to hurt you or tell you he wants to stay. The ex wife issue is a little more difficult which makes it worse that he’s not telling you about it. Do you have a friend there that can tell you what he’s up to when he’s there without you?
Remember, we can’t depend on man for what we need. People will always disappoint us because they are human. Choose to attend church with or without him. He is not responsible for you going or not going even tho it’s helpful when the man leads. Go and get your fill of church and maybe he’ll come around and fess up or start inviting you once he sees you’re ok with still going to that church until you find one you feel you can call home. 😊

Your right

My husband doesn't go to church but i am going to start going when we move closer to my families church and i am very picky about what churches i attend. I feel comfortable going to the church i am going to start attending regularly because everyone that goes there are genuinely good people and i feel comfortable there.

Belief, faith, and morality play a huge role in all relationships. I was raised devout catholic and saw the role religion played for many of the couples. If you two are not on the same page, that is a MAJOR problem. I was taught that god is the center of your marriage. This needs to be addressed. Although my views are drastically different now, my guy and I grow together and are on the same page on this subject.

Sounds like he is purposely going without you. I would investigate that more.

Thanks I needed to hear that

You aren't wrong and this is very concerning. There is a separation between the two of you that he's not acknowledging. Get into church on your own if necessary. Yes he should lead the family but if he's leading you away or just not leading stop following him.

It kinda sounds like he’s going without you on purpose. Do you think he’s trying to go to see is ex?

I guess so lol but everytime I wanna go it's an excuse. Imma just go without him.

I'm guessing the "we decided" was more one sided than you thought. Why can't you just go back to that church? He's already going and you say you don't have a problem with the church.

Mainly because his ex wife attend the church

We decided

I feel that leaving him is a bit much. Maybe he doesn’t tell you because youre the one that decided to switch from churches in the first place... butttttt id be upset if he didnt tell me... so i think thats what you should address. Ask him why he wouldnt take you with.