Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹
Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression....
The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹️
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽♀️ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become.
No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you're tired.
No one understands why you're irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
No one understands why you've lost your sex drive.
No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job".
Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief...
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏
I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wish upon a damn star I could start home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before.
Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job.
⚠️Thank you Momma's Tired for writing this! You definitely hit the nail on the head with this!!!!!
Jeska L.·
Мама двоих (7 лет, 12 лет)
Fantastic post! It's very hard to go from working and contributing to the household to staying home with small kids that cannot hold adult conversation. It's frustrating, it makes you question yourself and your worth, and you have to hear all the crap other ppl like to say (why can't she work?). I can only imagine how bad stay at home dads have it since they are traditionally supposed to be the "breadwinners". It gets easier with time, but it always feels, at least to me, part of me died... I am more than a Mom, and being a Mom doesn't define me.
Thank you for this! ♥️
Natasha Magolan ·
Мама троих детей
People like to give me crap since I was working full time before I went on leave and my boyfriend was a stay at home dad. It works for us since I work overnights and lots of jobs won't work around my schedule since I work 10pm to 7am.
✨👑💙✨·
I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM, both are very tiring, but I’d rather be stressed with a job than without one. I’m going back to my job on weekends while hubby is home. We can’t afford day care for two and our youngest has a heart defect and I refuse to put him in day care. I went on leave in April and I’m losing my damn mind being home with the kids everyday with no money to do anything really. My husband works 12 hours a day during the week, he’s home in time to shower, eat, and go to sleep and the kids are asleep by the time he’s home. So I literally feel like I’m completely alone and broke with rarely time with my husband, and little family time. It’s very depressing. I hate not working though, staying home is more depressing and mentally draining than anything for me.
Ss3mom·
Love this!! Even almost 6 years of being a sahm and I still feel like this some days!! Some days I love being home and some days are really hard for me. I’ve been told how lucky I am, and I know I am, but it’s from people that have never stayed home with their kids. I gave up a very good career in veterinary medicine and I was paid very well. I gave that up because it was cheaper for me to stay home!! I hate when people say “what do u do all day” or “u don’t have a real job” yep I’ve heard both of them as well it’s very hurtful because being a sahm is a 24/7 job with almost no breaks!! I don’t get to sit down and eat lunch and chat with coworkers. I don’t get to clock in and out and not have to do anything before or after clocking in or out. I’m not down playing working moms at all because that’s prob 100 times harder but doesn’t make my life any easier!! Thanks for posting this. It’s wonderful
Juju M.·
Love this!!
R.H.·
Мама троих детей
Thank you sooooooo much for this. It's so spot on that I am in tears sitting in my car in the school pick up line...like finally somebody else gets it and I'm not crazy.
tina·
Мама троих детей
Thank you so much for this so many really don’t understand how this feels
Allyson Almeda·
This is amazing! I'm going to copy this and share it on my Facebook. This is literally me today, I have been on the verge of a mental breakdown all evening and its so hard because no one understands. It's so hard being a sahm, I love it but I hate it. I'll be going back to work hopefully for the holiday season but when I do, I'll rarely ever get to spend any time with my boyfriend because I'll have to work evenings while he works days since I won't have a babysitter.
Kayla Sanders·
Мама двоих (2 года, 4 года), ждёт третьего
This is great! I honestly don’t feel like one way is better than the other. There are many pros and cons to both. If there were a way for all moms to work a few days a week, then stay home a few days a week, that would be great too! It’s all about balance right?