I have a question. My kids father doesn’t want to work things out with me , but he still want to come over and sleep over for months here so. Am I wrong for telling him I want space because I need healing and I need to learn how to be independent
You're far from wrong! in fact you're actually taking a big step towards your independence by being honest with him about that
I would be honest with him. It's not fair to you that he wants to do that, but not willing to work things out with you. Let him know how hard that will be on you and not only will it confuse you, but like you said you won't become independent.
OF COURSE NOT he can’t use you or your place as a hotel