@ashjordan2011 I wouldn't leave him just because of video games. I've already been divorced once and it wasn't fun even without kids.. I don't want to put her thought that and have two separate homes growing up. It's something we will just work through I was just venting.

Ladies there's nothing worng with beening a single mom you have more peace than you think no women needs a tired sorry ass kid that play video gamea Nd doesn't think of his family frist... God got you he will belp mKe that next step u just got to man up and take it

@kahuesman, thank you! just want you to know you are not at all alone

@lcost what a jerk! I'm sorry that's happening to you.

@kahuesman, i totally understand. my boyfriend has been talking to girls behind my back my whole entire pregnancy and i just foundout about another one two weeks ago. it’s so hard when you have the baby on your mind and you want to make things right for her but i’m stuck too because i don’t even know what to do. i felt the same way so i sadly just for the 4th time tried moving past it. not working at all

@lcost I have no choice but to work my ass off to deal with work and take care of her. I can't allow her to suffer just because I have resentment towards him.

i am so sorry to be reading this right now. at the moment, i feel like my boyfriend may end up the same way but can’t say for sure since our daughter hasn’t been born yet. i really don’t think moms ever get enough credit and it really hurts me to even think about all of the things we have to go through. you gave him a beautiful baby and it’s sad to know he can’t appreciate it as much as he should. at least your daughter has a strong mom like you to care for her! with or without him you’ve got this!

@db413 I've asked him that before because I was trying to reassure him he wouldn't break her.

I had this problem with my bf after I had our son. He didn’t start being more helpful until our son got older. It turned out he was actually afraid of doing anything wrong. He didn’t want to move him wrong and hurt him. Or feed him to much and give him a tummy ache. There may be a deeper issue that he doesn’t want to share or worry you with. So he distracts himself. Maybe one night soon. Sit down with him some night and ask him if he’s afraid of something.

I had this issue when my husband first came home. With my SO, it was honestly just him not knowing what to do. I had to hold his hand for a few weeks and show him how to interact with her. He had never taken care of a baby before, he was clueless and didnt have the motherly instinct that I did. Now he's a SAHD and honestly way better at everything involving our daughter than I am.

Just part of being a mom. It probably should be 50/50 effort but it always seems like the mom is the one who takes care of the children mostly. /: sorry girl

I felt so much better when i let that go. Your job is more mentally demanding and you'll be taken for granted often. It's the life of a mother. We give the entirety of ourselves for our families and usually get very little in return. They don't understand what we go through but I'm blessed to be at home with my son and to be able to teach him to be an amazing person.

@jakjakattack thanks. I'm hoping this shower will help. I just struggle because my job is more mentally demanding than his and he acts like he should be more tired than I am. He gets to go to bed whenever and sleep all night while I get baby to sleep and get up with her during the night and go to work the next day.

I had this problem at the beginning with my husband. He would just hold the baby and play games or watch TV. He works really hard and is exhausted at the end of the day so he doesn't want to do much. Just let her have her daddy time. My husband started interacting more with Jak when he became more entertaining. When he responded to toys and silly faces. Just take a deep breath and relax for a bit. Give her to her dad and go take a bath or do something for yourself because these times won't last forever